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2023.05.31 17:06 Egsanpro Should I buy a house at 24?
I'm 24, I've lived with my family my whole life, and I'm on the verge of buying my first house (a townhouse to be exact). I work remotely in the tech industry, and I've been fortunate to have no student debts or any other debts, meaning I've been able to save 90% of my paycheck every month.
My goals for buying my first home are:
- Having a place to live where I don't need to rent. I'd rather stay at home than rent.
- Having personal space away from my family, while still living close enough to visit them frequently
- Since this is a small home, I want to live in this townhouse until I start a family (getting married/kids), which won't be anytime soon. I would hope that I could sell this house then and buy a bigger home (ideally selling this one for more than I bought it now).
I've also calculated my budget to see how much I'd be paying for total housing costs, which comes out to 35% of my gross income.
The seeds of doubt that I have in my mind:
- A part of me worries that by taking on a mortgage at 24, I'm "sacrificing my 20s". I always thought that since I was always financially responsible and never really had a lot of personal spendings, I would be able to save up for vacations (note: I do have an emergency fund in case repairs are needed)/
- My dad always told me since I was little that when I start working and making money, I should always save up to buy a house. He always stated "if you buy a car, it's value goes down over time, but if you buy a house it's value will go up". Recently however, a friend of mine told me that I could be selling at a loss whenever I do move again (due to interest fees and market fluctuations) . They even questioned why I'm buying now, since they claim it's a "seller's market".
To me, I know my income will keep going up every year, but if I buy now I will keep that same principal for all the years I stay in that house.
Am I making a bad decision buying a house now (regarding lifestyle and expenses) or is this a good step in the direction I'm trying to go in?
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2023.05.31 17:06 Control-Forward How to deal with anxiety and fear caused by ndad
It's going to be a big rant but I feel that writing it out brings me a bit of peace.
It's hard to admit for me, but I'm dealing with anxiety and fear and it's detrimental to my life. I'm always hyper-aware of myself and surroundings and always try to prevent showing things that aren't perfect of myself. I'm a pushover and an extreme people pleaser. I avoid conflicts and am just a big scaredy cat. I dislike myself so much for this.
Below are some examples of the things he's done to destroy my self esteem
- I was a short and skinny kid. He'd often come up to me to squeeze my arm to make it appear fatter. Then he'd say that's how you should look. He did this nearly daily.
- He used to tell how he wished for a more athletic son instead of me. (during elementary school, also mind you, I had the highest grade in my class)
- If my hair was anything longer than a military cut he'd complain every day that my hair was too long and that I should cut it. If I didn't listen he'd complain to my mom so that she would tell me to cut my hair. Same for my nails, they had to be so short that it would hurt.
- He'd get angry if I would laugh yelling why I was laughing like a moron
- He'd make fun of my hairy legs and arms during puberty
- He'd belittle my every opinion when I didn't agree with him even yelling and beating me if I didn't agree.
- He'd often choke me just to show who's the boss (also during elementary)
- He'd spit on me
- He'd often make up hypothetical situations that would be stressful for me and ask me what I'd do. Then he'd belittle me and ridicule me. (this was also during elementary)
- He'd point out every pimple I had and just stared at me with disgust. He'd also do this when we had relatives over.
- He'd always belittle me in front of relatives
Below are some examples of the things that I think caused my anxiety and fear
- He'd get enraged if I asked him for help with anything.
- If he was watching TV I had to be quiet and non-existent. I couldn't make a single sound or I'd get yelled at or even beat up.
- He'd yell and beat me up if I disagreed with his opinions. He choked me, kicked me, spat on me and threw objects at me.
- During elementary he'd randomly come home drunk at midnight and just started whipping me with the belt like a madman. I didn't even do anything as I was asleep
- He'd randomly lash out against me for every sound I made saying I'm too loud
- At any random moment he could just say hurtful things. He randomly said to me how he wished that he had another son that would be athletic. Then he'd teach him to beat me up.
- He often beat my mother. He even held her at gunpoint threatening to shoot her.
- He beat up my sister often times too. He basically treats her the same as me.
- If I had an accident (let's say I dropped a glass) he'd beat me up.
- During my exams in high school he'd basically be pissed that he couldn't game in the same room. We got into many fights during my exams causing me to barely be able to focus on studying.
Those are examples and most of them have been the case from my birth.
My ndad has criticised every single cell on my body. It made me ashamed of my body. He criticised every of my character traits so now I don't dare to genuinely react to anything. I feel soulless because in my mind my reaction is very different. I just don't dare to express it for fear of negative consequences. I'm so scared of people because in my mind they can just lash out and become violent instantly.
It's causing trouble at my job because I fear approaching people for help. It feels as if everybody is judging me. My ndad has made me feel like a bother. A weak, worthless, piece of shit bother to everyone that should not make his existence known. It has numbed and exhausted me.
I've been out, finally, last year and now I can process things. But I don't know if I can change these instilled habits of mine. I don't know what to do.
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2023.05.31 17:06 mad_queen-_- If you need a laugh
In 2020 I got my first therapy cat. I remember the shelter lady telling us not to let him get underneath the cages. I thought he was just a little scared. Nope, he just likes getting into things he not supposed to. At my apartment, I had a mattress in the living room up against the couch. It just made things easier with my daughter to have everything in one room. My cat, who I initially named Milkshakes after the cat from Grim Adventures of Billy &Mandy, would claw along the sides of the mattress all night long and viciously attacked everyone's feet all night long. He would try to get the goods from my daughter's diaper before I closed it up🤢. He would dash out the door every time we opened it and then immediately get scared bc he didn't want to actually go outside. He just wanted to be naughty. As he got older, my fixed male cat to a liking to a rainbow alpaca of my daughter's. He would sit there humping it day and night while looking into the eyes of anyone and everyone around while doing so. It was pretty gross. He would contort its head until it was on his weiner. He would do it with guests around too. I had a skills coach that would meet me weekly and he would embarrass tf out of me. It's the eye contact. Very unsettling. I changed his name to Mr. Poopy and it's the only fitting name. That guy is a turd, but I'd never flush him. When we moved, we threw away his alpaca. It was really gross and stinky with matted fur. I expected that this would make it stop. That was a mistake. Now he makes eye contact while he humps the comforter ON TOP OF US all night long. He goes for the pillows too. I have to constantly push him off me at night. He became obsessed with a female cat outside. She was malnourished too, so we took her in. She's not fixed, so for about 2weeks every 2months, we have to just keep the basement door open, otherwise they just go at it in front of my daughter and her friends. I was trying to film my daughter opening Christmas presents and the cats kept trying to do it under the tree all the while, growling and yowling🤣🤮. He also gets into everything he's not supposed to. If you open a cupboard or drawer, he immediately jumps in and he is NOT small. He's huge. One of the biggest cats I've ever seen. He's almost the size of a Savanah cat. His latest habit is pawing at the toilet paper all night until he has a big pile of it on the floor. What a turd!😆
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2023.05.31 17:04 GlenOck What choice should I make in my career/study?
So I have been trying to do this study (Physics Teacher) for 4 years now and I have nearly finished everything. The only thing I haven't finished is my internship (I failed it). I have autism and I struggle with connecting to people and reading emotions, these are 2 very important skills for a teacher to have. I knew earlier in life I wasn't too happy with my choice but due to some trauma from my childhood I never wanted to give up or quit as I feared my status as "the smart one" was the only thing of value I have.
Now I have to make a hard choice, I genuinely feel terrible with teaching, it has given me nightmares before and constantly plagued my mind. I can choose one of two options:
1) Redo internship next year at a different school, pour all time into it and try to pass it. Get a diploma. I won't pursue the career BUT I will have a diploma.
2) Stop the study and look for some other jobs/studies I can do. I will basically be back to square one but I won't have to go through another year. It's not even guaranteed I would pass if I redid my internship.
What do you all think I should do? I am really struggling with the choice to make here and would love some feedback.
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2023.05.31 17:04 subredditsummarybot Your weekly /r/calgaryflames roundup for the week of May 24 - May 30
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2023.05.31 17:04 Dry_Diamond3857 Dirtbike Rental?
I'm visiting a friend soon and have my M-endorsement, would anyone kindly let me know about any good places to rent a dirt-bike for a few days? I have a commercial umbrella insurance policy if necessary. Thanks!
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2023.05.31 17:04 moonsugar6 Is this a good plan for a 3 week trip? (Kythira, Crete, Volos, Sporades)
Hi everyone! Me and my fiance are in the early stages of planning a trip for next year. We specifically want to visit Kythira and Volos because his Greek ancestors lived in those places, so we tried to plan a trip around those areas while incorporating some more island exploration in as well. We love nature, food and culture/history. Not huge on night life and quiet and relaxing is totally fine.
My main concern is that this might be too much to do in around 3 weeks, but I'm hoping we can make it work. Any tips or other suggestions?
Rough plan so far:
-Fly into Athens
-Fly from Athens to Kythira
-Spend around 3 days in Kythira
-Ferry from Kythira over to Crete
-Take a bus to Chania, rent a car and explore Crete for about 5 days
-Bus to Heraklion, fly from Crete to Volos
-Explore Volos and a couple surrounding villages for about 3 days
-Ferry from Volos to Skiathos
-Spend about 5 days exploring and relaxing in Skiathos, Skopelos and Alonnisos
-Ferry to Agios Konstantinos and bus back to Athens
-Spend 2-3 days exploring Athens before flying back home
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2023.05.31 17:03 Southern-Setting-486 My semi-unpopular Succession opinions
For the record, this show is flawless and all the characters are very well written and compelling.
These are 'unpopular' just based on what else I've been seeing on other posts! They might be more popular than I think, people might hate them, no idea.
- Shiv is a terrible, awful human being, and the 'woman in a man's world' thing is a pathetic cop out. She manipulated and treated Tom like dirt, bullied a rape victim, and fake virtue signaled constantly pretending to care about other people. She was the most entitled, considering she had no role in the family business, then suddenly waltzed in and wanted it handed to her. She absolutely will be a terrible and absent mother and continue the cycle. I don't get why I see so many Shiv defenders. Is there a lot of sexism in the workplace? Absolutely. But Gerri and Karolina are who Shiv thinks she is. Her whole role in Kendall not becoming CEO was just petty jealousy and it was the second time she betrayed him in a single season.
- Roman is equally as terrible as Shiv. Mocked a child who clearly could have used money that he dangled in front of his face in episode one, constant incest and rape comments, sending unsolicited dick pics to Gerri (I've seen 'unsolicited' be debated on this thread, but the difference in power dynamics and his weird obsession with her absolutely put a bad taste in my mouth), and backing and befriending a literal Nazi. At his brother's lowest most desperate moment, mocking his children. I understand he has trauma, but get some therapy and find a healthy coping mechanism.
- I don't understand the Kendall slander. I could be forgetting some things, but largely speaking he was a decent guy. People claimed he was sexist for yelling at Rava and Jess in one episode - I didn't read that as sexist. I read it as him wanting his kids at a funeral and him perceiving Jess to be betraying him (I do get how it's supposed to parallel Logan's sexism, and I am not claiming that he is 100000% void of sexism in his body, I just don't think these two examples alone are compelling enough to draw the major conclusion of him being a sexist person). He defended his kids and Roman against his dad, which not a single other person in those rooms either time would have done. Good for him for attacking Roman for what he said about his children in the finale, any parent who loves their kid would do the same (not claiming he is a good father though, he does appear to love them a lot but he is very much absent which is sad). He did not kill the waiter. He 100% should have called the authorities and told the truth, but he did not force someone to drive under the influence and he himself said he tried his best to save him. It doesn't make what he did right, but the overwhelming guilt and the actual story proves he has major remorse and sadness for what he did. He was groomed for a job for 40 years that his sister out of jealousy took away from him. Is it probably good for him in the long run? Yeah, maybe. It definitely will save him from becoming Logan. But in this exact moment that we left off on, it is nearly impossible to not feel immense sadness for him. His entire purpose of life stripped from him for schoolyard pettiness. I'm not claiming Kendall was this awesome perfect human, he did help elect a nazi out of hurt lol. But I don't get the overwhelming slander.
- Tom deserved CEO. He was the ultimate underdog, he was the only one who made real sacrifices. He was professional, sacrificial, hard-working, and devoted to the cause at every turn. Logan saw that too.
- Tom and Shiv getting back together felt unnecessary. Something about it felt too forced for artistic reasons, not in a poetic way. But that could be just me. Especially because if anyone had been paying attention to their relationship they likely one day later split up again. But maybe that's the point.
- The ending was really good but felt more like a season finale than a series finale. Something about it felt like it was missing something. It could have been two episodes easily.
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2023.05.31 17:03 carriefox16 Ghost kid in an old family photo
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I recently uploaded this photo from around 2002 to my Facebook and tagged my siblings and our one friend who are in the pic. My best friend messaged me and said "who's the creeper behind your brother?" The thing is, there wasn't anyone else there. My brother and sister were the youngest in our family and at the time my brother only had one friend who didn't live near us and my sister's only friend is clearly visible. I asked my siblings if they remembered anyone else hanging out at our house at that time and they said no. submitted by carriefox16 to SlappedHam [link] [comments]
Our house was always kinda creepy and we would hear heavy footsteps at night and whispering. One time, the pantry doors flew open and a bunch of cans flew across the kitchen. My brother even saw a bloody looking old lady in our livingroom once. But we never saw any ghost kids. I honestly don't even know if I would have noticed if my bestie hadn't pointed it out to me.
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2023.05.31 17:02 DeerHunter7770 Am I being verbally abused by my wife?
So I am new to this group. He is some background. I'm 37 years old and recently seperated. My wife and I have a 6 year old son. My wife and I got in a heated argument over Mother's Day and long story short she kicked me out. Im living with my parents for now and she is in our house that we rent. Her and I were married in 2012. Just some background, she comes from a bad childhood full of trauma and divorce. Her mother yells all the time and is verbally abusive. We severed contact with her a couple years ago. My wife's dad is not in the picture either. He was abusive as well. My upbringing was more stable. A mom and stepdad, no fighting. My wife has always struggled to hold a job and I've worked full time since 2005. I've always paid all the bills and let her be a stay at home mom. May of last years she started having pseudo seizures and was diagnosed with ptsd. She disassociates every day. Its been a struggle. She can't drive. I was doing almost all housework so it was a lot. When she was able she'd get on a good streak for a day or two then a week of just in bed all day. We tried several doctors and therapist. 3 week in patient program and even Duke University. She would usually come home resentful not liking what the doctor or therapist said. She stopped treatment and meds and only uses Marijuana now. Which is legal here by the way. Anyway she has always blown up and cussed and yelled. She made me ride horses which I did for years and had a big fear of. Anyway she she called it pushing me to try new things but I thought it was bullying. Now when we talk she will bring up all the wrong things i said and did and there are many. If I try to defend my self she says I'm gaslighting her by bringing up the past but she never stops talking about the past. I feel like I can't defend myself. Her relationship with my family is trashed from drama as well. As an example this past Saturday we took my son to mcdonalds to eat and a pet store. I stated I needed to be back by 6:30 for a dinner as it was a special occasion. It was fine. Then the next day she goes off on me for not being invested in her and my son and putting my parents first. Then I drove her to Walmart to get her groceries because she doesn't drive. I loaded them all and unloaded them and left. She said you should have hung out you didn't even try to have sex or anything? What we are seperated I was trying to give you space. One day I get a text saying we need time apart to grow and the next I get I love you and want you. She says I left but I was kicked out. I asked to stay she said no. She literally told my mom she had lost 250 lbs because she could have me back. I've been called weak and dense. I've always paid all the bills, bought a pool, built a pool deck, vehicles and tried to drive her to doctors, cooked meals, washed clothes. Held her and told her I loved her and it'd be okay. Anytime she yelled and cussed I'd just take it. I still love her
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2023.05.31 17:02 BottomShelfVodka Meeting the bottom shelf family.
Devon and I walked hand in hand into a large, beautifully decorated country style wedding venue. My mom greeted us at the door, and her awkward meter was reading off the charts. Her husband, Alan was standing with her offering his obligatory handshake to Devon. Mom could sense the tension, but she already had the conversation with me that I would need to be the one to take the high road should anything happen. Instead of ever calling out her husband on his garbage personality, she expected me, the daughter, to de-escalate any rising anger levels.
I kept that interaction as short and sweet as possible before guiding Devon in the direction of the bride and groom. I whispered "I'm sorry." to him as we were walking across the venue. He said "Don't worry about it, all is good."
Boy, you know my whole role in life is to, in fact, "worry about it", but it was relieving to know that Devon wasn't nearly as uneasy as I was.
We congratulated Tyler and his new wife, and then apologized for having missed the wedding. He responded with the classic, "No worries, just glad you were able to make it/It's nice to meet you, Devon." More people began to crowd around the newlyweds, so I took Devon to meet Nana.
That poor old woman has no personality whatsoever; unless you consider religion and politics a "personality". She's the worst. That lady never had to work a single day in her life. Her father owned a bank, and half of a small city in her hometown was named after her family. She married my grandfather who paid for their house in full with his blood, sweat, tears, and whiskey addiction. Then she sold the house she won in the divorce. Every future house she dwelled in, alone, was paid for in full with the cold hard cash earnings from the previous house. I digress.
Nana had a comically large open-mouth smile when I walked Devon up to her table. She stood and said "This must be the Daryl I've heard so much about." First of all, Nana, you've hardly heard shit about him because you always cut phone calls short after you've finished discussing your ground breaking salon visits or church sermons. Secondly, it's "Devon".
"It's so nice to finally get to meet you, Daniel. I wondered why Heather was hiding you." followed by the other 30 cliché, small talk, oxygen wasting sentences people say when they have nothing of value to say. Each sentence began with a new way to address him by a different wrong name. "Kevin, I hear you're from Texas. How's the weather there?"
I turned away, took a deep breath, and involuntarily rolled my eyes so far back that I made eye contact with the little guy who operates my brain. Dude, she doesn't keep slipping on his name because she's old; she just genuinely, absolutely does not listen to what other people say. She's always too focused on the next worthless thing she has to say. She passed this trait onto my mother as well.
We stayed long enough to eat and have a good visit with my uncle Mike. I was right. He and Devon really did hit it off well, and that portion of the trip was rather pleasant.
Unfortunately, we were well outside of the approved distance radius from base without being on proper leave, and we needed to book it back home soon. We commenced the obligatory hugs and said our goodbyes before dipping the fuck out of there.
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2023.05.31 17:02 TheRoyalBrassiere Tawkward
So I go to taco bell 3-5 times a week (I know) and the manager at my local one obviously knows me at this point. Well today he brought my food out to me, and we were chatting like always, he thought I was 21 and I informed him I was nearly a decade older. Then he asked for my phone number? I gave it to him out of panic but I know he has a husband. He said “I’ll add you to the thing.” like idk what I’m in for but I don’t want this to get awkward because I cannot stop going to taco bell.
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2023.05.31 17:01 jumpinjones Car Commuters are a Menace
I live in the downtown center of my mid-sized American city. Every morning I go running, then get ready and walk to the office. And almost every morning, I'm nearly killed by a speeding car commuter in a hurry to get to work. They blow through red lights, drive way too fast and turn without looking for pedestrians in the crosswalk. And they're always surprised to see me, as if they never expected someone might be trying to cross the street. But of course, they're in a hurry so nothing else matters, even if it means turning their oversized Suburban into a three-ton death machine to get one person to the office two minutes quicker.
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2023.05.31 17:01 McConman First time ever!
2023.05.31 17:00 alfinewoes Follow-up to my (now deleted) post about 42F who ended up at my place with a near panic attack
tldr: don't be a mess and don't get get involved with people which are a mess
Background: 42F invited herself to my (43F) place after a date followed by a formal rejection and couple months of texting with a near panic attack and unloaded a lot of emotional baggage on me: told me a lot about her short failed marriage (they separated 10 years ago but didn't divorce) with narcissist with whom she had a child with, trauma caused by her sister's death, childhood trauma caused by her father neglecting them etc. At that state I was jobless and drinking.
Here's what followed. After that night she basically just ran away. Just short, formal texts, are you ok kinda stuff. I stopped drinking and got a promising job. We met and discussed what's going on. She seemed in s stable state at the moment. There were red flags even during that date: too much ambiguity. Everything she said left me in a confused state. There was another date where I said ok are you willing to give it a go or not? She said ok let's try.
I now believe it was one of my biggest mistakes and at my age I should've know better.
I met her kid and we got along. Met her family and a few friends, spent a lot of time together with a lot of very pleasant moments but there's always been something "off".
Sudden yelling over petty issues. Saw her abruptly yelling at her kind over nothing and following it with a hug.
Talking about "us" while at the same time seeming distant and uninvolved. Stuff like "what if I wanted a list of your friends and called you to see where you are?" followed by "nah, I'll obviously won't be doing that". Or "I'm constantly wondering if this can work and if I should get involed more". Like talking from an outside perspective. Or "are you sure you aren't the jealous type?" without any context.
She went to a therapist after the first panic attack a few years back but concluded it's a waste of time.
Her world is full of magical thinking. She tries to explain her (multiple) panic attacks and depressive episodes by imagined diseases. People around her (even a friend of hers who's a therapist) told her that it's time she started thinking about what her behaviour does to others. In response she just distances herself from said people. I accepted it as a coping strategy, planned a serious talk about the hypochondria but delayed it.
Astrology which she uses as a means for self fulfilling prophecies.
Preoccupation with death.
People in her past she just ghosted. Had sex with a good friend 4 years ago. Because it didn't result in a commited realtionship it made her feel like a s**t so she blocked him completely.
Bad with money. Doesn't plan ahead serious spendings and she just puts it aside as "being impulsive".
A constant very vague communication style, a vibe that she lives in a world where opposing things can exist simultaneously.
Obviously stuck emotionally in her marriage. Blames her husband for everything. Talks about him a lot and wishes revenge. He definitely seems like a messed up person himself but I was constantly left with the feeling she has her fault there. Her family and close friends (and pretty much anyone who gets close to him) not liking him being hard to ignore.
Her husband messes up the kid so that he revenges on her every chance he gets. She allows it and although she explicitly said that the kid already needs therapy (which, in case you forgot, is a waste of time), like with many other things it's just something that she will do in a vague future.
While writing this I found myself thinking what kind of person would get involved in that and not exit. Yeah, that's me. Emotionally she's maybe in her yearly 20s or so which speakes volumes about me being part of this.
Until one night I took her kind for a bike ride. She was in an anxious state over a cencer diagnosis of a relative and started unloading it on me by accussing me of being attracted to her best friend. I was left in state of perplexity. I didn't let it slide like I did with other thigs before and asked for an explanation. This resulted in other accusations (not paying at our dates which is false) and a whole can of worms opened. Like "that day you said X and Y and I let it slide because I didn't want a fight" etc. I told her that I believe she's not realising the consequences of her behaviour. I couldn't sleep that night and next day she acted as if nothing happened. I couldn't believe it and she texted "I was willing to let it go but I see you're still preoccupied with my friend". Things escalated and I abruptly told her all I had previously blocked, like I believe she's emotionally stuck in her marriage, that things went too far and the kid shouldn't have been involved, that I believe she likes to play the victim role, that maybe a good therapist is better than alternative medicine etc. She responded saying that at last my true self revealed and I'm a lot like her husband. She then blocked me. Deja vu, I know.
We met once afterwards. All I wanted to say is that I'm really sorry that things didn't work out (yeah, who would've known...). All I got in response was that she's 100% positive that she'll die of one of her imagined diseases and she needs someone to support her, not another kid to raise. Not much of a surprise.
It's too bad it took this to understand that myself am not ready for a relationship and I have a lot of work ahead. A stable, self confident man would've either not pursued this (huge red flags have always been there from both sides), or communicated in an assertive way and exited calmly when things didn't show signs of improvement. I'm ashamed that I likely did her more harm than good. I'm very sorry for that kid. This thing just added confusion in his world which is already full of trauma. Writing this almost made me feel sick.
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2023.05.31 17:00 ThrowawayOof98765 AITA for asking the woman I've been seeing to politely ask for things from me instead of demanding it from me?
I (21M) have been seeing this woman (23F) for more than half a year now. I’m Chinese and she’s Russian, but we've been living in Australia for a while now. Both of us live in the same uni dorm. She has this thing where when she requests for something from me she does not just ask for it, e.g. instead of asking "hey can I pls have this" she goes "give me this/that" in a very demanding tone and it makes me uncomfortable. In the past I've pointed it out to her that it's coming across as rude and asked her to ask politely, she listened.
Today we were hanging in my room. I was studying when she came up to me and said "Give me your laptop I need to pay my rent" in a short and direct manner without smiling. It did not sound friendly at all. I told her that sounded so demanding and it's coming across as rude, and asked her if she could use phrases like "Could you please....?". She got mad at me and said I'm picking on her English. I told her I'm not, but just asking her to ask in another way since she is coming across as rude. She then said it's only a problem that existed in the English language and it shouldn't matter. She got really mad. In the end she left my room and went back to hers.
From my point of view, I was just simply communicating with her about what's making me uncomfortable and made a simple request for her to ask questions instead of demanding things from me. Even when I ask her for things, I go with "hey, may I pls.....?". I was a bit surprised when she got mad at me. As for the “problem that only existed in English” part, my stand is that different languages have different ways of expressing emotions and tones and since we’re speaking in English, we should follow the ways the English language express politeness and friendliness and avoid sounding rude.
She's been pushing me to make her my gf but I've been hesitant and her demanding things from me is one of the reasons why. I talked to her multiple times about her way of requesting things but she still didn't listen.
AITA for asking the woman I've been seeing to politely ask for things from me instead of demanding it from me?
TLDR: Woman I have been seeing for over half a year has been demanding things from me instead of asking. Today she did it again. I asked her to ask in a more polite way and she got mad at me. AITA for asking the woman I've been seeing to politely ask for things from me instead of demanding it from me?
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2023.05.31 17:00 Known_Security9495 [Landlord-Canada-BC]
I rented out my condo in the beginning of April this year to some great tenants. At the end of April they had an owner in the building angrily knock on their door to complain that that their toilet was running and had kept them awake all night! I immediately phoned a plumber and scheduled someone to come in 3 days. I then shut off the water to that toilet and the unit has an additional bathroom . The plumber came in and assessed the situation and said there wasn’t a problem. I also notified my strata and property manager to notify them of the situation. I then received a message from my property manager two weeks later on a Friday before a long weekend that the same owner had once again complained of the toilet running. My tenants were out of the country at the time and I did manage to get in touch with them to enter the unit. Once again no running water from toilet and no issues. I notified the strata as well as the property manager to let them know there is no running water from anywhere coming from my unit. They replied that they were going to do some further investigation with the complainant to see where the source of the running water is coming from. I waited two weeks and messaged my strata to see if the source of the running water had been found. The strata contacted me back indicating that the property manager would need to answer my question!! So going forward should I file a complaint about this other owner because they have been harassing me and my tenants about a non existent issue? I appreciate any advice given. TIA
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2023.05.31 17:00 palpatinesballz I have truly wasted the best years of my life and I don't know how to stop
Throw away account because I dont want some people knowing how depressed I am. After turning 28 a few months ago, Its dawned on me how much i've been working for the past decade, and Im still in the same place when I was 18
For starters, I hate to use the term "wasted", but thats really what it feels like. I still live with my parents, and never moved away for college or anything like that. I have two jobs and a decent savings account because of it, but thats about the only good thing I have going for me. I also have two college degrees, but that really doesn't amount to much these days. I really fell for the whole "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" rhetoric, and I feel like I bet on the wrong horse. Whenever I think I get close to it all coming together, the goalposts move and I stay stuck. I really feel like I waited too long, and lost valuable years that I should have been progressing socially in favor of working extra hard so that (by now) I would have been in a more secure position. lol
This year, I finally gave up on my dream career after years of trying to get into it, so I'm still dealing with that. My backup job turned out the same way, so im on my back up-backup option. I've fallen so far down with my goals I struggle to see the point of even trying. I cant afford to move away, hell I cant even afford an apartment in my hometown unless I live with other people, so i'm stuck living with my parents. My two boomer parents who spend the majority of their day watching fox news indoors and yelling at the tv about conspiracy theories. One of them is on medical disability so i've been more or less strong armed into sticking around to help out. I hate to admit it, but its probably the best compromise I can get right now. Despite the money I do have saved, I've done the math out and I would lose almost all of it just trying to move around and secure a place to fucking rent. That's if I can even find a place, I responded to an add last month and the landlord said "I don't rent to anyone under the age of 45, kid" and hung up on me.
I don't date either, never have a girlfriend still holding me V card because I have no privacy at home. I've talked to them about this and both of parents told me to not treat their home like some motel and bring strangers over, and if I ever wanted privacy to rent an actual motel room somewhere. At the same time, they bring up when im planning on getting married. Don't ask me how that's supposed to work, because I don't know either
I really shouldn't complain, I know people have it way worse than I do and I have the luxury of a semi-stable home,albeit at the cost of everything else. My small circle of friends is in the same position. Most of us live at home, work multiple jobs, and get together once every few weeks to vent to one another. And no, none of them want to move in together, Three of them tried it last summer and it almost caused them to stop being friends, and frankly Id rather keep my friends than anything else right now.
My only plan of action at this point is to keep on this path, keep saving and hope for a this new job that I've been pursuing to come to fruition, so that way I can have the means to finally move out and make up for lost time. However, Ive been doing that for the past 10 years, and the definition of insanity is...well you know. Im looking for any input and advice on the subject, maybe another option I hadnt considered but I feel like Ive run down the list, as well as screaming into the void about how fucked we all are.
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2023.05.31 16:59 ArugulaWild8848 Looking for an Excel Template to Track Daily Expenses with Specific Options
I'm on the lookout for an Excel template that can help me keep track of my daily expenses. I have a few specific requirements in mind, and I was wondering if anyone here knows of an existing template that fits the bill.
Here's what I'm looking for:
- Daily Expense Tracking: I want to easily record the date, description, and amount for each expense I incur throughout the day.
- Categories: It would be great if the template already has preset categories like rent, electricity bill, food, transportation, and more. I'd also like to see the total expenses for each category, and it would be helpful to identify the most and least expensive ones.
- Family Member Expenses: Since multiple family members contribute to our expenses, I'd love it if the template allows me to assign expenses to specific individuals. That way, I can track each person's spending and see who has the highest and lowest expenses.
I know Excel can be customized, but I'm hoping to find a template that already includes these features. If you know of any existing templates or have suggestions for where I can find one, please share your insights!
Thanks a bunch for your help and recommendations!
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