Hello ladies! I hope you are having a nice day, and if not, that you find someone who can bring a smile to your face! I come to you looking for a consistent chat partner with whom I can hopefully develop an emotionally intimate relationship with. I’m open to anything that happens, but not looking to rush into anything. Let’s just chat, spend time together and see where it goes?
I’m very left leaning, child-free and emotionally available. I’m a tall, hairy and chunky boy, happy to provide pictures of myself and my cats on request! I love board games, television and film, history, animal care and food of all kinds. I am a big proponent for being active in local community support organizations and do my best to be a faithful friend. I’m far from perfect, but making other people laugh or smile is what makes my day!
I currently have three foster cats who take up a lot of my time, as I am working on socializing two of them who were born outside. We are making great progress! I’d love to meet another animal lover, as my eventual dream would be to open up an animal sanctuary that doubles as a therapy center for humans. I have an unbreakable love for animals, and faith in their ability to help us heal. I think seeing a battered, scarred or withdrawn animal come out of their shell, seeking love, attention and comfort is one of the most rewarding things on the planet.
I’m a sucker for a cute giggle or laugh, freckles, curly hair and genuine passion about what interests you. Intelligence and emotional maturity are big things for me, but I’d also love someone to watch trashy reality TV with! Tell me about your pets, your D&D campaign, your favorite movie, or your dirty little secret! Let’s get to know each other. Please give me more than ‘hey’ or ‘how are you’ to work with!

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Nanquan (3.4)

所以祖師西來。That's just the reason the Founder¹ came from the West. 恐你諸人迷著因果地位。Fearing that all you people might be those who are continuously confused by cause and effect, 故來傳法救迷情。hence he came to impart the Dharma and relieve [you from your] bewildered sentiments. 頓悟花情已。The Immediate Realization of the Flower Sentiment is foregone! 性是花種性。Nature is the Flower-Type Nature. 亦云菩提花。It is also called the 'Bodhi Flower'. 故江西老宿云。For this reason, the old veteran of Jiangxi² said, 不是心。不是佛。不是物。"It is not 'Mind', it is not 'Buddha', it is not any 'thing'." 先祖雖說即心即佛。Although our ancestors explained "[this] present Mind is presently Buddha," 是一時間語。it [was only] a momentary saying; 空拳．黃葉止啼之說。an empty fist;³ a yellow leaf [used] to stop crying,⁴ this saying! 如今多有人喚心作佛。Nowadays, there are many people calling 'engaging [with] Mind' Buddha, 喚智為道。calling 'acting [with] wisdom' the Way; 見聞覺知皆是道。'seeing, hearing, perceiving, and knowing'⁵ are all the Way. 若如是會者。If one understands like this, 何如演若達多迷頭認影。it's like when Yajñadatta [was] bewildered [about his] head [upon] recognizing [it's] reflection.⁶ 設使認得。Supposing [you] do recognize [your head]; 亦不是汝本來頭。[this] also is not your original head. 故大士呵迦旃延。For this reason Mahasattva Kātyāyana⁷ 以生滅心說實相法皆是情見。explained, "With the arising and subsiding Mind, the True Reality of all Dharmas are sentimental views." 若言即心即佛者。If one says "[this] present Mind is presently Buddha," 如兔馬有角。it's as if rabbits and horses have horns. 非心非佛。[If one says] "it is not Mind, it is not Buddha," 牛羊無角。[it's as if] oxes and goats without horns. 汝心若是。If your Mind is, 佛亦何用。what use is Buddha, also? 非他有無形相。It is not that [one or] the other 'has' or 'doesn’t have' form. 以何是道。With which is the Way?
Notes: 1. Bodhidharma. 2. Mazu. 3. An 'empty fist' refers to feigning to conceal something of interest in one's closed hand, as in a simple way to deceive a small child. 4. Another deception. A petulant child is crying for gold, so they are given a yellow leaf and told it is gold. 5. From the Great Vibhasha Treatise: "What is perceived by the eye consciousness is called 'seeing'; what is perceived by the ear consciousness is called 'hearing'; what is perceived by the other three consciousnesses (nose, tongue, body) is called 'perceiving'; what is perceived by the mind consciousness is called 'knowing'." 6. Yajñadatta is featured in the Śūraṅgama (Heroic March) Sutra where Buddha says, "In the City of Śrāvastī there was one Yajñadatta, who suddenly one morning took a mirror and looked at the reflection of his face [for the first time]. He wanted to be able to see his head, eyebrows, and eyes in the mirror, but was outraged that his own head was not visible. He took the face [that he saw reflected] as that of a trickster spirit and, although that had no basis in fact, he ran around insanely [searching for his real head]. What do you think? Why did that person run around insanely for no reason?" Pūrna [Buddha's interlocutor] said, "That person was mentally deranged; there was no other reason." 7. Kātyāyana was one of Buddha's ten principle disciples and known for expanding on and explaining Buddha's brief statements and verses to those who had not understood them.

Ok so as some people know from my other post, Carly’s bf had shown a picture of a message I had sent to my older sister back in September. Basically he had taken a picture of my phone unlocked when I had called Evie a cum rag. And to make it worse, he had been in charge of driving me, Carly and Holden (my bf) one night after a big party. This was the same party where I had made my joke about Evie not being Mio’s type. Obv Carly’s bf hadn’t been drinking but the rest of us got blackout drunk. When we had all gotten in the car Holden and Carly had passed out while I was making drunk conversations with him. I had apparently said something about Evie and he had asked me to repeat it while he recorded a video of me saying it. (I want to add that he has had it out for me since we first met. The first time we met he told Carly that I was a snake and she shouldn’t trust me. So he hates me for 0 reason) so basically I had said “Can we all just agree that Mio’s new cum rag is only here for Mio to get his dick wet.” Then I said something about the lion king movie (proving how drunk I was). I proceeded to ask Carly’s bf how many condoms he thought Mio and Evie went through in a week. Then I laughed and hiccuped and said that Evie is probably letting him nut wherever he wants on her body and that she enjoys it. I also said that she probably loved all that deep throating and swallowing she was doing (Carly sent me the video so I saw everything I did and said for myself). Carly cursed me out and said that Evie started crying when she saw the video and Mio is even more pissed at me. But yeah, Evie blocked me after that and I tried calling her. I feel really bad about what I said and feel disgusted. At the same time I feel like Evie shouldn’t have started crying and worsened the situation. Plus the video was taken on September 24th so months ago.
So for the actual update; I went with my bf to Ty’s apartment where almost everyone was. Me and Holden got there and Evie didn’t look at us at all when we walked in. Mio looked at Holden in a “why did u bring her” type of way. They both were standing in the kitchen with Ang and Carly. I walked up to Carly who was standing across the island from Mio and Evie. I said hi to Evie and she just said Hey. I said hi to Mio and he didn’t even look at me. Evie kinda nudged his shoulder and then he said hi which was the first time he’d talked to me since I was at his apartment. I asked how they were and Evie just shrugged and walked away. About 30 mins later I was sitting on the couch with my bf. Evie was sitting on Mio’s lap on the other side of the couch and they were talking. He had his hands around her waist and kept kissing her neck. He even (surprise, surprise) put his hand on her boobs. Mio got up to get another drink and I took this opportunity to try reconciling with him. I jumped on him and told him I missed him and that this was all a big misunderstanding. He stood still and when I let go he gave me a mean glare. I took his drink from his hands and took a sip. He told me to leave him alone then walked away. Honestly I thought that was really rude and thought Evie had told him to say that I but went and sat with my bf on the couch. I kept looking over at Evie and we made eye contact like 2 times. Every time I looked at her she covered her chest with her arms (she was wearing a low cut long sleeve that showed half her boobs and sweats). Ang started bringing some board games out and everyone played and it was actually really fun. We all started drinking a bit though and I got kind of tipsy so I was kinda all over the place. After we were done with one game almost everyone went to get more drinks .This left only me, Mio, Evie and Carly’s bf on the couch. Idk what in gods name made me do it but I started talking to Evie stupid and embarrassing questions. Evie didn’t say anything and Mio told me to stfu(I think he said something else but I don’t really remember). Everyone came back like 2 minutes later and I drank a little more. Then Holden told me I shouldn’t have any more drinks so he got water for me that I sat and drank for a bit. Idk what snapped but when we had started playing a new game I walked over to Mio and Evie to make a “public apology” but tripped over someone’s shoe and spilled my water all over Evie. I panicked and grabbed napkins but Mio got upset. He snatched the napkins out of my hand and told me to leave her the fuck alone. Evie just looked embarrassed and Mio gave her his sweater to cover up. She looked like she was about to cry so I immediately apologized. The thing is that I said “aw Evie please don’t start crying. Ur used to having liquids on ur chest, so why are u upset about it now?” Evie’s jaw dropped and she just walked out of the apartment. Everyone looked at me and I started crying. Mio lost his shit and yelled at me that I was a psycho who just had to embarrass Evie every chance I got. He said that I had done nothing but slut shame her and make it seem like she was nothing more than a sex toy to him. He threw the napkins in my face and told me to fuck myself. I started bawling and everyone just stared at me. I tried calling Mio from Carly’s phone to apologize but he hung up when he heard it was me. Me and Holden went home and I got a message from Mio at around 11pm. I will copy and paste: “ur the most immature and pathetic person in the world bro. U have zero fucking reason to bully harass and shame Evie yet u still do it. One day you’ll realize that you aren’t shit and u never will be. Ur a fucking bully who needs to hate on better women to make yourself feel less pathetic. Yk u have nothing going for yourself and that’s why u keep ruining shit for everyone else. Don’t ever fucking talk to Evie or speak about her again. Ur a stupid asshole that thinks the world revolves around u and people owe u shit. Get over yourself and don’t try to fucking talk to me again. Ur gonna apologize to Evie for slut shaming her in every possible way whether u like it or not. Send a fucking message telling her ur sorry and then leave us alone. I mean it. Hope u realize what a piece of useless shit u are (my name)” I sent him a long message saying that I loved him as my friend and he couldn’t do this to our friendship. He responded saying that I was the one who did this to our friendship and he’s glad I did so he found out sooner than later that I’m a complete jerk. So yeah. I cried all night and Holden tried comforting me but he also scolded me and said that I’m a shitty person. He doesn’t know about the video or what I said to Evie on the couch though. I’m gonna leave Mio alone for a few days then try again. Hopefully he will come around. I haven’t sent an apology text to Evie yet. I feel like they both overreacted and that there was no need to yell at me and make me cry. I don’t think I will be sending Evie an apology unless Mio will reconsider our friendship for it. But yeah, this is prob my last post.
Dm me nice things if ur even gonna bother. No more bullying bs from 40 year old adults.

So we’re moving into a new place with a resident pug who is an old lady and she can barely walk anymore sadly. My dog is generally okay off leash once he’s met another dog (he can be defensive at first but usually chills once he sniffs the other dog out and recognizes they’re not a threat), but she can be a little feisty/reactive. I’m worried about how he’ll react if he comes to greet her and she snaps at him (which she’s been known to do to other dogs). My dog is a 65 lb pit bull so definitely want to keep the peace and keep everyone safe. I’m thinking I will keep him in my room or in the crate when I’m not home, but hoping to have a peaceful situation where both dogs can be out and coexisting. Just trying to figure out how to make sure my dog is comfortable and not too curious or anxious around her because when he’s anxious that’s when he tends to exhibit more problematic behavior (he’s never been totally aggressive per se towards another dog off leash but he has been a little overly stimulated in certain situations resulting in some barking and lunging). Also want to make sure the pug tolerates him too, especially since she can’t move much on her own. Any input welcome!

My ex, whom I’ve blocked in every way possible, emailed me a month ago. I wouldn’t have seen it if I hadn’t been in my trash folder looking for another email. Blocked emails go directly to your trash bin, it’s a flaw.
A year ago I dumped him. It was toxic. He lied, often, and when I called him on it he said, “Have I lied? Yes! But I’m still trustworthy”. He said it with a straight face.
He was cruel, especially after the breakup. I blocked him on social media, then just deleted my socials altogether. He kept calling my phone, so I changed my number. I did not give it to anyone who knows him. 4 months later he showed up on my doorstep, after zero communication, inviting me to return without any guilt for what I had done (I don’t know what I did, but I guess he forgave me?). I put my house on the market a week later. He doesn’t know I moved. We have had no contact of any kind since. Until the recent email. I have created a poem with his email, I hope you enjoy… :)
“I left your daughters fishing pole. And an orange tray that I found when cleaning out items from my uncle's estate. It made me think of you.”
My condolences for your uncles passing.
“I leaned them against a tree in front of your house.”
Not my house.
“I miss you every day. My heart is broken.”
Still!? Have you done nothing to heal or recover yet? Whatever man, you do you.
“I will leave you in peace now, and I will never reach out in your direction again nor bother you nor yours in any way.”
Thank you.
“God help me. I will love you always.”
Cool. You’re choice.
“Signed-“ We’ll say… “Bob”
Signed- Naomi

Sorry if this has been asked before, I did try searching the sub but did not find the information I was searching for.
I am moving with a few dogs both are regularly treated with Advantix and will be getting the heart worm medication prevention before moving down. We currently live in Alaska and non of those things are really issues up here more moose and loose dogs. My question is how bad are the ticks, or other bugs? Will this be something I have to be hyper vigilant about?
All my friends are saying beware of scorpions and black widows but theyre also all from Alaska so I'm unsure if this is an actual major concern.

I'm an immigrant from India who came here 5 years ago. I have a family, work a regular job, pay my taxes, follow the rules. Nothing to get a medal for, I know. I love this country and the opportunities it's offered me and my family.
But I'm concerned about the number of immigrants coming in, especially most of them just from one place- India. It's like there are no checks in place, and just about anyone gets to come over. We have a healthcare and housing crisis here that is just going to get worse with so many people coming in every year. I already see an anti-immigrant stance showcasing itself on social media and fear that it's going to get worse with time. I also recognize that I'm not special and part of the problem, and so am considering leaving Canada. Canadians are lovely and welcoming people, but everyone has a limit.

Man oh man I think one of these three characters would/will do so great:

1. Terra - Her entire kit is just insane man. She has a stun, reflects an instance of damage, AND her ult makes her CC immune. I remember when she was released, she was heralded as the Wukong stopper lol. I wonder how they will rework her lore as she was hunting down counted just as Kira was.
   
2. Aurora - I think this is pretty obvious for just the ult ability. I was never good with her but watching pros play her was crazy as her abilities were insane if you knew what you were doing
   
3. Grim.exe - He was so unique that many never understood how to properly play him and I never saw many play him, but man he was good. A slow, a blast similar to Howis knock back, ability shield, and an ult that follows you if you are in eye sight. He would be refreshing.
   

Special consideration: Iggy, because well it’s Iggy, and Wukong (he would have the carries in a fit).
What do you guys think?

My whole life I was gifted/damned by this condition. When I was borning, the first that came out was my dick and then the whole body. My dick is now longer than my legs and I can only jump on it. I'm currently in a wheelchair because of this. My childhood wasn't that bad because my bamboo didn't grow as big as now but during teenage years I had to sit on a wheelchair. Girls were laughing at me and I became depressed. I'm depressed now but suicide isn't an option to me. I can't jump out of the rooftop because eventually I will land on my dick and I will be still alive. So I have to live and suffer.

Anything on game pass is an option to play 😂🤟 really looking forward to Diablo 4.. 420 friendly , chill & respectful vibes hmu

Hi Reddit,
So I’ve been battling how to approach this situation with a friend for some time. We text daily, but I recently went on vacation for my birthday (which she forgot) and needed some space and didn’t text her for a few days. She immediately started double, triple, and quadruple texting me, in addition to calls and FaceTimes to get me to answer. This has happened before when I was sick, and she even texted my boyfriend at one point to find out why I wasn’t responding after just 1 day. This behavior of hers has caused some serious turmoil for me, as I feel pressured and anxious about responding. I feel that if I now decide to stop texting for just a few days, I can’t just pick up from where I left off. I feel like I have to give her a full explanation as to why I couldn’t respond and it gives me major anxiety. And it’s not like her texts are important. These are literally texts that ask me how my day is going or how work is going. These are repetitive texts that I have no answers for sometimes. I’m sick of the distracting small talk.
This friend is supportive and great otherwise. But man is she clingy. Well, recently I sent her a text after I hadn’t responded for a few days (after thinking about how to respond for like an hour lol) telling her I couldn’t hangout because I just got back from vacation and seeing my parents and didn’t have the energy I wanted to give. I told her I’d be dissociating the entire time (which is true, because I have a lot of stressors on my plate right now with family and my job) and wanted to hangout with her at another time. She took great offense to this and responded with passive aggressiveness and manipulative language. She said something along the lines of: “reach back out to me when you have the energy to give. I don’t want to look like an idiot for reaching out anymore. I’m very hurt by the distance you’ve caused in our friendship”. Mind you, this is all because I didn’t respond for a few days (as I was vacationing for my birthday with my family)! Throughout the vacation I even sent a few texts here and there letting her know I needed a break from my phone and still loved and missed her. I have only know this girl for a year but she has thrown the term “best friend” and “love” out so much that i have begun saying it as well, even though it makes me uncomfortable. This is our first roadblock and really might be our last because I don’t want to stay friends with this person anymore. As much as I loved talking to her, this attachment style is too much for me.
I come to Reddit for thoughts and opinions. Is this friend worth keeping? I have never had such a clingy friend before. She has very little friends, no family (that talks to her at least) and a rocky relationship with her boyfriend.

This is such a weird questions but has there a template created that would help to turn my life into a game similar to The Sims?
Basically I’m imagining a lot of charts and checklists interlinked to an overall board.
I know that gamification is a huge thing but I’m talking about a template specifically that feels like The Sims that shows things at a glance.

Hi all - my elderly (mid-80s) parents are traveling to Newport from Baltimore this summer. They will be staying at a hotel in the harbor area.
Their plan is to drive each way, but I am trying to convince them to take Amtrak from Baltimore to either Kingston or Providence and then take a cab to Newport. This is because I am not crazy about them driving that far or driving on 95. I could of course drive them up myself and then take the train back (and I haven't ruled that out) but would prefer not to have to spend the vacation days.
I would like advice on the best way to structure a trip to Newport via train and cab. I know that Kingston is slightly closer to Newport than Providence is, but Providence is the bigger town and so my thought is that there may be more cab options there. The Acela also stops in Providence but not Kingston.
My parents will not consider flying, even though I think that would also be safer than driving.
If you were planning this trip for your parents, how would you structure it? (Assume that the cost of taking the train versus driving is not an issue). Would you have them take the train to Kingston or to Providence, and how would you advise them to get to Newport from there?

I hate the term, but I have a 'side hustle' designing menus, logos, graphics for 1 small restaurant. I used to work for them as a server and one day, helped the owner with some computer stuff and 5 years later, I'm responsible for all his menus, logos, adverts, etc. I have another proper unrelated job too.
I went off the simple model of $15 per hour + expenses (templates, stock images, etc). I'd kinda just make up a reasonable price after the work is done - owner would never ask for a quote and would never question the costs - I just assume it was a bargain regardless.
Recently, he referred to me another restaurant, but they aren't so 'easy' about it and as any creative knows - you get arbitrary requirements, have to spend ages figuring out something that'd work and then have to give them an attractive price.
Now, although I want the extra income, I don't want to undersell myself and end up hating this side gig - but similarly, I don't know what 'professional' companies charge - so I don't want to overprice myself.