Wizard of oz trunk or treat

Hi fellas!
After reading all the previous posts on this sub, I decided to grow a figurative pair and ask him out. Shoot my shot, right?
The exchanges between us were so friggin awkward and painful that I’m just embarrassed. How are two mutually attracted adults unable to “close” the deal?
Here are a few snippets of our conversation from today: (Hope they give you a laugh, if nothing else 😭)
Me: Hey, speaking of birthdays, yours is coming up… I wanted to treat you to a drink.
Him: Oh wow! You’re so sweet!
Me: (blushes, grins, gets tongue tied) uh yeah, so… cool (Face palm)
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Me: I recently rescued a dog from the shelter..
Him: Can I take it out for walks?
Me: Sure! silence
A little later… Me: So when are you going to come see my dog?
Him: I’m flexible. Whenever. Oh wait, I have to travel for work next week…
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Getting ready to leave…slooowly grabbing my things… lingering…
Me: Let me know where you want your… um… to… um.. go… for a.. drink
Him: Where?
Me: Yea… where?
Him: I’ll have to think about that
Me: Ok, just don’t pick somewhere lame (Walking out the door… catching him look me up and down)
Him: I won’t. Text me… for anything
Me: Bye
Wtf guys? How is this so hard? If this is what you all go through routinely, you have my sincere empathy and compassion.
How would you react in this situation? It’s clear I’m trying to ask him out, right?
Do I just need to get over my anxiety and follow up with him? Or is the ball now in his court?
Thank you in advance!

I'm from the East Coast of the US and would prefer someone around my age to speak with but it's not completely out of the question if you're a bit older, just be 18+. What I'm looking for is someone who also seeks a close friendship and is very genuine about how they are and their expectations, I specifically am looking for that connection that is made when I feel like I can really get to know someone or that we can be friends. Sometimes it's easy to go off of a common basis of mutual interests, but I also like learning about things that I normally don't experience or people telling me about themselves despite knowing they might do something differently than most. At the end of the day I hope that if everything goes well, we can be close friends for the future and be there for one another. An ideal situation would be just genuinely caring about one another and being able to talk clearly about anything, not judging but understanding instead. As for how I think I like to treat people and others? I'd like to say I'm very empathetic and I don't judge anyone regardless of who they are or what they believe in. In my free time I mainly play games and watch movies and sometimes shows, anime as well, I watch YouTube or streams when I am idling or chilling. I also have existing friends whom I speak with a lot that I hang out with, but this is not to say I wouldn't obviously give someone else the time of day to talk to and get to know. I really like psychological horror movies and shows with great cinematography, The shining is my favorite of all time and my second favorite though not horror is the Grand Budapest Hotel. I play games like Dead by Daylight (mainly as of recent) as well as League a little bit, Smite, Garry's Mod, Warhammer, Mordhau. I have other games as well that I simply haven't been interested or don't play as much recently. I would hope someone would take the time to be able to read everything and if all goes well we could likely move to Discord if you prefer, the messenger on reddit is quite buggy lol. I am a bit of a night owl so do keep that in mind, hope to meet nice people :)

I'm still a bit confused about the whole ordeal. I have a lot of emotions and I don't know how to identify or process them very well, so I would need your insights. I (28F) met my boyfriend (30M) a year and a half ago. I met him because we both played on the same server of a game, and I frequently crossed paths with one of his friends (they also met online in this game). I got invited to their discord server where they chill together, and I started hanging out more with them. There were mainly 3 friends who always played together and get along super well, and I loved hanging around them. But it was kind of clear since day 1 that I was the "outsider", so I tried to be one more in the group. We'd spent a lot of time together and played many different games together. As time passed, feelings between me and my boyfriend appeared, and we have been dating for almost a year, long distance (same country, different regions). He is currently unemployed, so he visits me from time to time, staying for long periods (2-3 weeks at a time). I love him very much although sometimes it's difficult for me to handle him as he is a very closed person and doesn't always share things with me (when he is feeling down and doesn't admit it but I can tell because he behaves differently). He overthinks everything, doesn't trust anyone, and has a very negative opinion about himself and life in general. I have kindly pushed him to see a therapist, but he has always refused. Mentally is not that I am in a much better place, but I tend to have a more optimistic view of things. The point is, I love him but sometimes it's difficult. I see and value that he has come a long way with me has opened up about many things and tries to be better for me. But when he is in one of "these days" and doesn't communicate with me and says he is "fine" although it is clear he isn't, it's challenging for me. With this in mind, onto the actual topic. The two of us and one of the friends from the server started playing a new game together. It's a survival game where you battle bosses and every time you defeat one, you unlock powers/recipes/structures to improve your abilities and take on stronger bosses. All of us need to be fighting each boss because if we don't participate in the fight, we don't unlock anything, even if we are connected to the server. Since we started playing, I feel like the third wheel/outsider. They both go alone in quests without letting me know (when we are on a call together) and I follow them like a dog. Even when there are two of us playing (my boyfriend and me, or the friend and me), I wouldn't dream of going for a boss because I know the missing person wouldn't be able to unlock it. There are plenty of things you can do besides going for a boss, like gathering resources or exploring the map. But yesterday, we were playing and we stopped to have dinner. It took me longer to come back to the game because of cooking and eating (they both live with their parents, so they don't cook), and also because my mom called me and I was chatting with her for a good half hour. When I do, they both are joking about changes that they've made in our base and that I am going to be mad when I see them, and that I may not notice. I did notice of course: there's a new structure, that we didn't have before and that could only be there if they unlocked it by defeating a boss. So, because I took longer, they went without me. I was fuming, but I played like I didn't notice, muted myself for a bit, and pretended to be afk. I do think my boyfriend noticed because my tone of voice changed after seeing it. They disconnected shortly afterward, while I was still afk. When I think about it, it is like "I'm 28, why get so upset because of a game". It's not the game, I guess. It's 1) being left out consistently by them, while I always care that everyone is included. They wouldn't do it to each other, but to me, yes. It makes me feel like I'm the less important person in the group. And 2) they did it knowing that I would get upset, and they didn't care. And they joked about it in front of me. They rather play an extra 30/45 minutes regardless of how I feel. And one of these persons it's my boyfriend. And now I have all these feelings bottled up and don't know what to do. I feel like a need a couple of days away from my boyfriend to process everything, stop being emotional, and be able to have a mature discussion about it. I don't do well in confrontations. I always get very emotional and start crying, and I hate that. Makes the other person feel pity for me and the conversation it's unbalanced. The problem is, my boyfriend is coming to visit tomorrow, for a couple of weeks. And I don't feel prepared to have this conversation. The best thing for me would be to tell him not to come, but I don't know if that would be blowing things out of proportion. Also, he's spent a good chunk of money on the ticket and, as said, he's unemployed. It makes a difference for him to lose that money. Also, I don't think the conversation will change much, as the group dynamic is what it is. I don't know if it's partly my fault for barging in this group. They were his friends before mine, and maybe I have stepped into their territory and he wants his time with them without me. He has never said anything about this though (but given how he is, he wouldn't either). I feel like I don't want to play with them anymore, especially not this game. But I don't know if this is childish and overreacting or self-preservation. I feel I have invested a lot of time with them, taking this time from spending time with other friends that would treat me better. My boyfriend has texted me normally as if nothing happened, and that makes me feel stupid for feeling this bad. I haven't answered him, I don't feel like being cheerful and like nothing happened. I'm at an impasse here, with the clock ticking. Thoughts?

Okay, so, I'm planning for my first character that'll be really in-depth. Before I lay my idea out to the dm, I just wanna check with y'all real quick. It will be a sorcerer elf (already discussed this part with dm, so not a lot). They have been in all different types of schools and academies, and have had many different masters/teachers. Anything from wizard academy and bard college to baker, pirate and thief. He has been in prison a couple of times, but only once for longer than a year. I got a whole list of different professions and academies etc. he has tried out, but at some point he gets a private teacher in wizardry. After more than a decade of training with him, he accidentally kills is master in a training accident. He then goes on the run, not wanting to go to prison again. Believing he will be sent back, or even executed, at some point in the near future, he decides to go set right what he beliefs is wrong in the world.
Every time he meets someone he things is part of a problem, he marks their location on his maps, and tells them he will visit them later and talk about it in private. If he does not succeed in convincing them to change, he murders them afterward. The one thing he believes is most problematic, is shame, in particular if they are ashamed of something he is as well. If they are ashamed of being (half-)elven, possessing some magic, being from a well off family, he will consider them part of a problem. In short: if they are ashamed of their gifts.
The thing is: he is generally a pacifist. He believes that life is the most important gift of all, and no one has the right to take away someone's gifts. He feels shame for killing the people, even though he does not consider them innocent, so he hides his 'mission' from everyone, telling them he is simply here to hone his skills and to overcome his fears.
He has fears. He's afraid of anything that he believes is unnatural: birds, fish, lightning and thunder, aaracokra. He is afraid of dark forests and dark caves, but he is very comfortable in dark alleyways, feeling like he can find help quickly enough if trouble stirs up.
My questions to you are: Is this too evil/murderhobo-y? Are these fears gonna get annoying? Is pacifism gonna get annoying, even if I tolerate if my party members kill enemies?

When I was a child my father used to abuse me physically and verbally. He used a cane to hit me till my arms bled and felt numb. He scolded me even for little things and some things were not even my fault. Worst of all, he was unreasonable and always thinks he's right . For some reason, I've had an extremely high self awareness since I was young and was good at reading people's personalities/psychological stuff but I think it kind of ruined me because Instead of seeking help for my abuse and problems, I tried to treat/fix myself, but that made me more fucked up because as I grew up I started having social anxiety, anger issues and ADHD. Even while having all these problems I've never told anyone about it because I've told myself I will never tell anyone about myself unless they really want to know because I don't like to burden them. Regardless, I still have never told anybody about my problems and tried fixing myself using my own ways and fucking myself up even worser. I don't find meaning in life except for love but I can't get it. I'm socially weird and use a copping mechanism as my personality. I always feel like shit and have no motivation at all. I feel like the personality I made up for social interaction is so perfect people won't ever notice my true self behind it, making it even harder to share my true feelings. I'm even messing up my love life because I can't read hints for shit and don't know if she's even into me. I have so much more problems but I don't even know how to say it because it would be too long. The trauma and problems in my life just snowballs and I am now reaching my breaking point. I have decided if life does not get any better I'll kill myself in 2 years. I don't want to be rich or have everything. I just want a girl that loves me and make my mom happy.
Whoever reads till the end thank you for listening. Sorry for bad grammar I'm using Singaporean/Malaysian english translated directly from my mind.

I don't know where else to put this, but i hope some women here will understand what i mean and not take this in bad faith, because every time i try and talk about it, people just roll their eyes. this is pretty much a long vent about misogyny so here goes.
i am a pretty girl. not naturally, makeup + clothing choices + many years of money and effort put in to my appearance. but i am really only pretty when i make a concentrated effort. other times, im very average looking or less. and this has made me notice such a severe, disturbing difference in the way people treat pretty girls in all aspects of life.
what is it about society that feels so entitled to beauty in women? so entitled to my time, attention, and cooperation whenever im in public, simply for existing this way?
the amount of harassment i face daily is exhausting. the way i am looked at by men (like a piece of meat, a walking sex object) makes me want to throw up and go hide in my house. the way i am looked at by women (a stupid slut, a pathetic hooker) makes me want to curl up in a ball of shame. every day, men think they are entitled to my time, attention, kindness, and tolerance. i have a fake phone call line as my top contact, and constantly have to giggle and brush off blatantly predatory flirting as to not get murdered.
i wish i could be beautiful all alone in a room by myself. i like to get dressed up and stay in my house, sunbathe in my backyard. i wish i could be beautiful in this world and still be a human being. pretty girls do not get the privilege of invisibility. i feel like some sort of walking public art piece for others to look at and touch however they like, or an animal on the nature channel.
i will go out in high spirits, cheerful and comfortable in my beauty. a woman will tell me she loves my haircut, and i will smile. a man will compliment my tattoo, and continue walking, and i will glow. but then a group of men will pass by, the hungry looks on their faces making my stomach sink, and i feel their eyes still on my back even when i have passed. a pair of women will stare as i walk by, and as i stop to check my phone, i hear one whisper "how much do you think she paid for THOSE?" men act as though i am required to humor them constantly because i know what i look like, and i should be flattered by their attention. i am not even free around women, they treat me as a competitor or as someone privileged and ungrateful. i wish i could only allow my beauty to be seen by those i choose. i hate how people taint it with their preconceived notions.
and i will not pretend being a pretty girl gives you certain advantages sometimes; once in a while i will get a free drink from my local starbucks, someone will hold the door for me, or reach up to a shelf where i can't in a store. but overall these things are never as frequent as what i have to use it for. being pretty is just a protection sometimes, a way to allow me to giggle and flirt my way out of terrifying situations.
i wish i could be pretty and live my life as such without the rest of the world taking it as an invitation to make assumptions and harass me.
again please don't take any of this in bad faith please. i've just gotten really frustrated over the last couple years with how people treat me constantly and how whenever i try and talk about it i'm told that it isnt a real problem. obviously the ultimate problem here is misogyny but it's a weirdly specific facet so i wondered if anyone else knows what im talking about. sorry for the long vent, i hope someone reading this understands what i mean

Background:
My puppy is named Tikaani, she's 4 months old and I've had her for two months. Shes a rescue husky mix (maybe some German shepherd?) And very clever.
She's been good about her potty training for a little over a month, only one accident that was entirely my fault for forgetting to turn my alarm back on. Previously accidents were dealt with with a stern no, brief kenneling while I cleaned up, and nothing else. She still gets treats every time she goes potty outside to cement the idea that outside potty is good.
I have the kitchen/dining room baby gated off because she's a trash gremlin and will attempt to tip the bin. She does not like it much when I am behind the baby gate, even when I'm standing right in front of her and leaning over it to pet her anyway. She often does 'no' behaviors when I am behind the baby gate which I'm assuming is a 'bad attention is better than no attention' thing? I'm trying to head this off using snack distractions and crate training.
Anyway, I usually eat behind the baby gate to keep her from ingesting people food that is bad for her. Before getting Tikaani I would usually eat in the living room.
Current issue:
I decided to try eating in the living room again. I thought maybe she'd like it better that I was with her instead of behind the baby gate, and also she should start getting used to people eating around her without getting anything herself because that happens in life.
The first time was lunch, I feed Tikaani about half an hour before I eat so our eating times are completely separated in her brain. Before I feed her, I take her outside to pee and she does. She drink a little bit of water when she comes back inside. Feeding takes fifteen minutes because I throw her food all over the room for her to chase and sniff out because it uses up some of her wild energy and slows her eating and she loves it. After I take her out again, she pees again.
I spend fifteen more minutes making my own lunch while distracting Tikaani with small bouts of training. When I have my food I decide to sit in a chair and put my plate on the ottoman. She's been really good about leave it, so I was pretty confident this would be fine, and for the most part it was. She didn't seem to like that I was eating, she barked angrily at my food and I had to resort to saying no and nudging her away from the ottoman until she understood that she was not supposed to get too close to my food.
About halfway through eating, she huffs (which she seems to do when she's frustrated or mad at me for something) and walks across the room, jumps on the couch, and pees on two throw pillows and the couch cushion while looking directly at me.
Obviously I shoot up and start no-ing as soon as I realize, but it's already done so I just sigh and kennel her so I can clean up.
(Side note: she also hates when I clean. It doesn't matter if it's vacuuming, sweeping, wiping up a spill with a paper towel, she despises it. She sees me using any of these things, she screams. I've introduced each of the things to her and she's fine with them when they're not being used (even the vacuum when it's on). So that's baffling to me.)
I crate her for dinner and later, after I kennel her for the night, I do an extra bit of cleaning for the couch just to make extra sure it's not gonna be a problem.
The next day I decide to try again for breakfast. Almost the same song and dance, she drinks a little water, I take her out to pee, she does, I bring her in, feed her, take her back out to poop, she does and also pees a little, bring her back in. I spend fifteen minutes making brakfast and this time, I sit on the couch to eat. To be clear, she has not had any more water since the first step. She barks angrily at my food, I gently nudge her away from it with no's and leave-it's. Halfway through she huffs, jumps up on the couch right next to me (approximately same place as last time, but thoroughly and enzymatically cleaned), and pees while staring me in the face.
So now I'm at a loss. Why exactly is she doing this? Logically I know that protest peeing isn't a thing, but damn if it doesn't feel like she's protesting me eating in front of her without sharing 😅😅
Anyway, can anyone give me ideas on why she might actually be doing this?

I (18M) have just completed 12th from the IB board and I came back home to be greeted with enormous pressure and I can't take it anymore. Its not like I have not faced pressure, its a combination of things. First off, my goddamn boards are over so I deserve a break and not be constantly bombarded with tasks and tensions from every family member. And I as a student have shown great achievements, first off I have an additional subject as music (cause extracurricular is needed for foreign universities) where in my performances have been played in IB virtual conferences at a global scale. On top of this I do 6 subjects and I have a consistent 35 above points out of 42 (which translates to about 95 - 96 percent or more than a 3.7 3.8 GPA, which according to me is insane since I passed 10th with just 89 percent (not really fancy at all.) On top of that in my CAS portfolio I have taken tasks which have leadership and organizational qualities (not a lot but I do have them nonetheless) (which is a necessary extracurricular component in IB). On top of that (yeah it continues) I have made a research paper draft of about 6000 words all while juggling the IB curriculum (a pretty intense curriculum according to world standards) and transferring between two schools and teaching probably 70 percent of my physics and math portion to myself since I had missing teachers in the first school (wow)). I know it sounds like I am blowing my own trumpet and its probably due to a couple of things.
First of all both the schools pampered me like crazy, I was treated like some sort of genius and that's probably why I have such a high sense of self worth, but I know that it was nothing but mere stupidity since the competition was shit and I didn't achieve excellence in any particular subject. Also the second reason is that I alone with my father whose strong suit really isn't directly supporting me and he basically left me to figure things out on my own and never really asked about my academics at all which makes me really irritated when someone does ask me (which happens on the regular with my mother and the rest of my family who welp constantly tell me to do this and that and so on and so forth). Its a difficulty I have on my end and I am trying to improve. At first I used to get angry at this, something for which all of my friends having the time of their life during these vacations was the catalyst for (and I mean EVERYBODY irrespective of their economic class or even academic performance, it not neither the trope of the business man's son who screws around all day, it was even with my middle class friends who were gaming all day enjoying non-stop, and not even the trope of the student who fails every time so he just does time pass all day everyday, it was everyone from my topper friends to those average students who were again going on trips having the time of their life) now I just get sad thinking that I am not even enough for them, it makes me feel as though all I did was worth nothing to them.
Now, from their shoes they are correct too because I will be facing global competition when I submit my application and anything that bumps up my score will be useful and they have pushed me in doing good things as well, like learning python which is interesting and useful and also really accentuates my profile a lot, they also made me enroll in an engineering mechanics course which was really interesting for me and probably holds great value, but they have sort made this prison of sorts where I can't really enjoy. Like, they want to me (and will probably force me to) continue my piano lessons and tell me to give examinations which is a weekly commitment that is going to drain my weekend of 3 hours (I know this does not sound like a lot but hear me out) coupled with the fact that they are pushing me to do another course, and have already enrolled me in a IIT Bombay course. They have also enrolled me in a German language course which is about 5 hours daily which is going to start from next month and although they teach me good things like cooking and keeping track of my applications, all of this combined makes me feel so claustrophobic and chained to be honest.
I feel (and this is my opinion which I am ready to mold because I have my flaws like blowing my own trumpet constantly) that it is wrong for them to literally make a prison cell for their child in a time where this probably my last vacation as a child free of responsibilities, and make an environment where in I have to hide from them to even have any fun (like playing games or watching series) since I will be dead if I got caught slacking off all of this while I am the only one who seems to studying and burdened while others are enjoying. Like I feel I am in right but also in the wrong so I would like to know your opinions on it, also thanks for reading till here if you have :)
I planned to post this yesterday but I got sucked into my daily routine (yeah I have a fucking routine in my vacations (wow so fun) and as you can see by my tone I am now tired of this prison at this point like I am fed up of my family)

I remember reading about an object which takes the place of a deceased relative in some ways. It's a smaller, portable thing akin to a doll, which would be kept in the home and talked to and treated as if it were the deceased. It doesn't have to look anything like the person or even a human at all, it just comes to symbolize and embody that person. If it was animal-shaped, the animal would be one the deceased had some connection with.
For comparison, think something with the same emotional purpose as reborn baby dolls, though what I'm thinking of is definitely older and not limited to infants. I am also 99% sure that 'effigy' wasn't the word used to describe it. I don't remember what culture it was a part of, or if it's part of some larger funerary practice.
Thanks in advance!

Hello! I had double incision the 24th of may with Dr Pierre Perrot in France. They got the "nipple bandages" off last Friday and I was supposed to keep cleaning them and replace with lighter bandages everyday for a week, so I'm supposed to stop doing it today.
The left nipple looks okay, however since day 1 the right one has a white spot that doesn't seem to be going away, and I find a lot of discharge on the bandage every morning, there was also a little blood this morning, barely tho. I don't feel like stopping putting bandages on it because I'm worried the discharge will get my compression top dirty + if it's an open wound, I don't want it to get infected even more.
Should I call my surgeon about it? I have no idea if it's normal and should give it time, or if it's infected and needs to be treated asap. Thanks for reading! (also the white stain on my scar is my moisturizer that I haven't cleaned yet)

Following on from the PlayStation Showcase 2023 Recap, here's a handy condensed list of all the announced games and trailers coming to PS5 from today's Summer Game Fest 2023.

Game	Release Date	Trailer
Alan Wake 2	17 October 2023	YouTube
Armored Core 6 Fires of Rubicon	2023	YouTube
Baby Steps	2024	YouTube
Baldur's Gate 3	31 August 2023	YouTube
Banishers: Ghosts of New Eden	2023	YouTube
Crash Team Rumble	20 June 2023	YouTube
Final Fantasy VII Rebirth	Early 2024	YouTube
Fortnite Wilds	09 June 2023	YouTube
Honkai: Star Rail	Q4 2023	YouTube
Human Fall Flat 2	TBC	YouTube
Lies of P	19 September 2023	YouTube
Like a Dragon: Gaiden	09 November 2023	YouTube
Mortal Kombat 1	19 September 2023	YouTube
Path of Exile 2	TBC	YouTube
Prince of Persia The Lost Crown	18 January 2024	YouTube
Remnant II	25 July 2023	YouTube
Sand Land	TBC	YouTube
Sonic Superstars	Fall 2023	YouTube
Star Trek Infinite	TBC	YouTube
Throne and Liberty	TBC	YouTube
The Lord of the Rings: Return to Moria	Fall 2023	YouTube
The Talos Principle 2	2023	YouTube
Toxic Commando	2024	YouTube
Under the Waves	29 August 2023	YouTube
Warhammer 40,000: Space Marine 2	Winter 2023	YouTube
Wayfinder	Summer 2023	YouTube
Wizard with a Gun	2023	YouTube

In addition, PlayStation announced Spider-Man 2 releases on 20th October 2023!

Source https://m.gpone.com/it/2023/06/09/motogp/oliveira-gli-incidenti-di-inizio-stagione-non-e-colpa-del-format.html
After a troubled start to the championship Miguel Oliveira is ready to go back in riding his Aprilia RS-GP, on the track of Mugello. The first race for the Portuguese after shoulder injury left suffered in Jerez, which held him away from the track in the Le Mans Round
"I feel good. I've had five weeks to recover, which are not many to get here 100%, but I hope are enough to mount and check my condition: you can try to brake at more than 300 km/h only when returning By motorbike. The team wants it to be fully restored and competitive, so i will take more time if should I see that the shoulder will prevent me to do what they asked me, just in case contrary I will go on to address the weekend," explained the team manager RNF extension.
One of the worst weekends for re-enter, considering the difficulties of a demanding track like that of Mugello.
"That's true, but it's not me who chooses Even the Sachsenring is not the best for the left side of the body, which is proper the one where I got injured at shoulder, I'll still give my all"ha commented Miguel, convinced he had enough strength in the shoulder, per face the Tuscan ups and downs: "I'm here pilots thinner than me - he joked - Obviously I couldn't train as I usually did, especially for regarding the top of the body, because I can only do a few push-ups, I'm not a 100% pilot, but I hope it will go well"
The team director, Wilco Zeelenberg, is said worried about how he is going the season, since Oliveira is not The only rider to have already been injured twice. The person concerned, however, does not if he feels like criticizing the new format of the MotoGP weekend as far as it is success so far.
"I analyzed my every fall, including the two occasions I have injured and I think there is nothing for which I can blame the system for what happened - explained Miguel I don't think you can blame the Sprints Race for the accidents that there have been, also because most of the accidents occurred on Sunday I can only emphasize the fact that with the Sprint Race riders approach the race on Sunday having already in mind what to do or where to go and think this generates some overexcitement in the first rounds, It is not however a question of a aspect that i can't blame or what can in some way retain its the_cause, I like this system.
"We are all very fast, we all have the same devices and we all leave more or less at the same instant, because It all depends on your reaction time lights, which can vary by one or two tenths. We are all close and there is no way that someone can make a big one difference right now. That's all very tight and I believe it is treated only of bad luck - he said - The Race Direction has nothing to do with it with accidents, because I don't think so just that the decisions of the Stewards they may have to do with the aggressiveness of the pilots. I do not think someone behaves more aggressive, because the Stewards do not sanction or why they should".
"It was an exaggeration in my opinion. I don't think he should be penalized, and I was the victim in that case - he admitted Oliveira - This is how I see it I, but I am neither a judge nor God to be able to tell the absolute truth. Each one has its own interpretation. It's normal And the Stewards are also nothing but three people deciding, This is the reality"
It would be necessary to reduce the risks convince pilots to keep a more conservative approach to Sunday?
"Everyone has their own approach. Now you have the opportunity to go to points where maybe you wouldn't have expected it, on the short distance, so everyone tries to take advantage of it, while on Sunday the mentality should be different because the race is longer and you don't have need to force as you have to do al Saturday. A lot of things have happened in these first five races, but I think we'll need a full season to get a clear picture of what we can get from the double race - commented the Aprilia rider - I don't see what we could do change the format or why. Would be certainly more convenient not to have the Qualifying on Friday, but in the end it is The same for everyone"

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I’m not sure if this post is within the scope of this Subreddit… but I will try again.
Ok so my original post was removed before I was able to defend/ explain my side of this story. This was definitely not our brightest moment and I am in no way proud to sit here and tell everybody I was once addicted to heroine. It’s actually really hard due to the fact of what was said in the comments of my last post. But that isn’t why I am here. I’m not here to talk about my past and how I need to fix that issue because I’ve done that. That being said if you could please put yourself in my shoes and look at how my SO and I were treated during this time when we needed support and compassion, not betrayal and fake love from my MIL. MIL did try and manipulate the whole situation for no good reason other than to make herself look like she cared and make herself out to look like the “hero”. So this is another story but with a bit more explanation and background.
So me (31M yes,I forgot my age) and my SO (32F) have been together for about 4 years. Shortly after we made things “official” I found out that she was a long term heroine addict. She has been using for 10+ years. I explained earlier that at the time I was having trouble sleeping at night, but not why, but it was due to drinking too much red bull and I was on Adderall for my ADD. I drank to come down every night and when I found out about my SO and her heroine addiction she started openly doing around me so I became more and more interested in it over time because I seen how it just put her out!! I had to drink almost all day to barely fall asleep, so when I say inevitable, I mean if something is in your face like her shit was in mine, it more likely than not, is going to end up being very difficult not to try. Most people who have a heroine dependency know it only takes once or twice to be hooked. Kinda like someone eating ice cream in front of a lactose intolerant person. Not at all, I know, but I’m not trying to get too deep because I’m really here to talk about my MIL so don’t linger on our addiction.
So 2 years into our relationship my SO gets a feeling she could be pregnant. It wasn’t planned and I wish it could have waited until we were committed fully to sobriety, but that wasn’t in our cards. My MIL caught wind of my SO believing she was Pregnant and on Valentines Day gave Her a pregnancy test and a Flower. The results were in fact positive and we absolutely knew it was time to grow up and do better. MIL said she understood and made us believe we could confine in her and she would have our backs and she would Pray for us.
MIL called CPS on us when she was AROUND 7 months knowing we had a plan!We explained our situation and to CPS and they told us that they ultimately were not able to look into our case until LO was born. So she in essence tried to get him taken away right off Rip. It was later in the pregnancy when we found out we were expecting (LO Birthday is 6/27/21) so only giving my SO less than a month to find a doctor, to see Dr, and make a pretty drastic lifestyle change is definitely a little harsh. Maybe SO took a minute to get on Suboxone but how can you try and fuck with someone knowing they are putting in an effort to get better? And behind their back? (Rhetorical questions,To me it’s BS)
Anyways, she was all supportive to our faces but after we left or whatever she was off telling people we were 100% going to lose our LO. She told her sisters, her co-workers, and anybody else who knew us that we were handing rights over to her after birth because we couldn’t kick our addiction. She continued to fill her house up like she was truly going to come home with our LO. MIL completely child proofed her home to set the scene for her lies and delusions. We didn’t know. We thought MIL was just being extra and buying stuff for herself for when we “came to visit” but, nope!! She told people that “there was no way CPS will allow them to take that baby home” and “they plan to hand custody rights over to me before leaving the hospital” I even heard she had no faith that when our LO was born he wouldn’t have to go through withdrawals. All of which were UNTRUE. She KNEW SO was getting help so MIL wouldn’t have to be stuck raising our LO. We didn’t want that, we planned on getting Sober before baby came and that’s exactly what SO did. Unfortunately I wasn’t sober until after, but there wasn’t a time where both of us were using, one of us has always been sober taking care of our LO.
We did talk to everyone, even CPS, before leaving the hospital that needed to be informed and we were cleared to take him home! MIL still somehow convinced my SO that our LO was better off in her care and so CPS was called again to write up a “legal contract” (it was written with a marker on yellow lined tear-away type of paper) stating she had temporarily guardianship of our child for 6 months. All this entitled MIL to do was to go to his Drs appointments without us and to make critical decisions for him without our consent. Nothing else, we were not limited to seeing our LO or anything like that. She just needed to feel less like an idiot so I let her have her victory.
It didn’t last but maybe 2-3 months and she realized how time consuming and difficult it was to raise a newborn. She wasn’t able to do any housework and her sleeping schedule was abruptly interrupted and she just couldn’t handle it, so we of course, took him back and have been caring for him 125% since then like we always planned on doing.
Months later I don’t know what the reason was for my SO to be in her mothers closet, but she came across photos, along side court documents motioning to get full custody of our child. These were like the photos you wait an hour for at your local supermarket, but they were of my SO and I asleep with our LO in our arms, sleeping himself. Every picture it was one of us nodded off, looking as though we were high as a kite, looking after the LO. When In actuality we were napping with our NB, just like most new parents do, I’m sure!! But!!! she was snapping pics of us without our permission thinking she could carry out this delusion of us neglecting our LO.
She never admitted to doing us dirty, never once did we make any kind of remark, request, or even have a need for her to think she would be raising our child. She just needed everyone to see how great of a person she would be for stepping up. She needed validation for some weird reason.
As I speak my so is getting a text from her aunt saying MIL plans on taking in a homeless woman. AND SHE PROBABLY ISN’T EVEN HOMELESS!! Like she really has a problem!!!
My parents think she is unhinged, hopefully this completes the picture.
Edit: spelling/ grammar