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2023.06.09 11:00 Effective_Tiger_1485 Irish Estate Agents - a threat to rant and moan

After the post yesterday by that poor innocent buyer who got dicked around by his estate agent, it's time to have a real think about this profession.
Irish estate agents are just professional liars. Ask them anything about a house, they'll just lie through their teeth and tell you whatever you want to hear. You can't take a word they say seriously. And they have near-complete immunity. The cunts just get away with it.
I called it a "profession" here. What are their qualifications? Lying all their lives I'd say. What is their regulatory body? Jesus is their regulatory body (and the PRAI).
Biggest joke ever are the "valuers". Irish redditors of a more mature persuasion might recall what happened whenever Sean Dunne bought the Jurys Ballsbridge Hotel at the height of the boom. Sean asked his girlfriend of the time, socialite Gayle Killilea, to pick a number between 80 and 240 for a big surprise. Gayle thought he was going to buy her diamonds or something and picked 240 so Sean made a bid of €240million on the hotel - about 4 or 5 times what it was worth. There were emergency meetings in the Ulster Bank credit committee that night. One problem was that the Credit Committee couldn't get a loan without a professional "independent" valuation. A professional "independent" valuation was obtained that very night, low and behold for the very amount that Gayle had picked at random. This valuer was one of the top estate agents in Dublin, his name made the valuation watertight - fucking of course he was one of the top estate agents in Dublin.
These thick, lazy cunts get paid more than the solicitors do. Having reviewed what I've written above, I'd love to be one. How do I do that? I just decide I'm an estate agent now?
Anyway, that's the end of my opinion piece. Feel free to add your own below.
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2023.06.09 11:00 AutoModerator This Weekend We're.....

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2023.06.09 11:00 LifeBonder_Amrita What makes for good friendship qualities?

What makes for good friendship qualities?

Hey LifeBonder Buddies, Do you consider yourself a good friend to someone?

Great friends play a very important part in our lives. They mould us, make us better people and lead us in a better direction. We all need true friends in our life who can support us during our highs or lows. But are we being a good friend to others? What qualities make us good friends to be there for others?
Friendship is not an easy relationship to maintain. While most of us can think that the people with whom we can have fun, are good friends. But trust me, there are a few qualities that we should keep in mind to become true friend.
  • Honest: We often say, “Honesty is the best policy”. It is also true for maintaining a true friendship. Good friends need to be honest with each other. Even if honesty can hurt a little, it is still the best possible way, to tell the truth. Be honest with your friend, express your feelings, share your secret and make that friendship even stronger.
  • Caring: Good friends are always caring. They understand each other and care for their friends. When a friend is upset, you should talk to them and cheer them up. Good friends always be there for us in our highs and lows.
  • Attentive: Good friends are always the first to understand when their friend is not well. As you are attentive towards your friend, you will quickly understand that something is wrong. Listen to your friend, understand their perspective, and stick around them in hard times and there you are a true example of a good friend.
  • Trustworthy: Trust is one of the most important pillars of a true friendship. We, adults, cannot always share everything with our family. Good friends are those angels whom you can trust and tell all your secrets.
  • Supportive: Be a supportive friend! Support your friends in their decisions and also be with them to get over their failures. Even if you do not agree with their decision, understand their mindset and think about what is better for them. Having great support can lead people to their zenith and you can be that true supportive friend!
  • Non-judgemental: Each of us is different. You can be a part of a true friendship only if you can embrace the difference. Accept that you are not here to change someone. You can help them in their journey without being judgemental. Help your friend to get through their bad decisions or bad timings, and help them be a better version of themselves.
These qualities are just the starting point of a quality friendship. Friendship is a unique relationship that empowers us. Friends are our chosen family. So, it is important to choose wisely and also to put a little extra effort to be a good friend. Do you have a friend who is your angel? Do you have that one person who has always been with you through all your hardships? Let us know and celebrate your friendship! Until then, have a Friendly Friday!
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2023.06.09 10:59 OscarArranz I'm having trouble finding Front End job with 1 year of experience.

Hi all!

I've been trying to apply to different positions all across Europe (I'm an EU citizen) these last days as I'm ending a Frontend internship in about a week and I was told that sadly there are no open positions at the moment where I'm doing the internship.
I have to add that I'm still studying my CS degree (though I have some other official studies from Spain that allow me to work as a developer, I think it's called vocational training in English) but I am planning to study slowly the subjects that I have left as I currently need to earn money.
So far I only find other internships or offers where they ask for at least 3 years of experience, I'm sending my CV anyways but I'm being rejected without doing any interviews (I'm guessing because I've only got 1 year of experience).
You can check my anonymized CV here: Anonymized CV
I was told by my manager that I exceeded their expectations at the internship and he even offered himself to write a recommendation letter. I think that I do have a higher level with React than you would expect from someone with just 1 year of experience (I'm writing custom hooks, pointing out structural problems in the codebase and refactoring them and, I usually don't need help and can work on my own, it is rare for me to need to ask for help).
Still, I guess that I'm being rejected without being given the opportunity to prove myself the moment people see that I only have 1 year of experience (and maybe that I haven't finished my degree yet).
Any ideas on what could I do to have more chances of getting interviewed, I feel that once I got to the interview it'd be much easier to prove my skills and actually get hired.

Thanks in advance!
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2023.06.09 10:59 ConferenceStock3455 [FL] Slur and retaliation threatened

I'm a truck driver in Florida. About a month ago, i let our shop know that a part was close to needing replacement. It has been noted on my pre trip inspection daily since then. Yesterday i went to our lead mechanic with that small part needing to be replaced. He said he's too busy and I'll have to wait. I said that I'm not driving the truck until it's replaced so I'll be waiting in the office. I get called back a little while later. When the mechanic confirmed that I was refusing to drive the truck(because not only is it illegal, it's dangerous) he said "do you know how ret☆☆☆ed that is?" I closed my mouth and walked straight back to the office to let them know that I'm starting a formal complaint. (My manager wasn't at work yet so I haven't spoken with them yet.)
When i returned to collect my truck,(took less than 5 minutes to undo 2 bolts and swap the part) the mechanic said that he used the last of this part and he's not ordering anymore. so if I need another, he's going to purposely not order it for a week so I won't have a truck to drive(so no pay) for a week.
Should I just email this to HR and CC my manager, send this to HR only or just my manager?
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2023.06.09 10:59 deadwolfpdx AITAH for wanting to distance myself from the LGBT community

I (40m) am bi and used to be very active in the community I used to go to marches hell I used to be a bouncer at a gay club in San Diego back in 2005. I have recently had some bad interactions within the community or with people who are in the community including being called a homophobe and a bigot just because of my stance on the second ammendment in a conversation where sexual preference hadn't even come up until I was called a homophobe... I've always stood up for those in the community and was deeply hurt by this comment I feel like a community that was built on love and inclusion has become very hurtful and not able to have constructive discussion about anything anymore... it saddens me and confuses me at the same time. I have many friends and family who are in the community but I feel the need to distance myself just for my own mental health or is this just the state of the LGBT community where I now live (Portland area)... so AITAH
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I could NOT sleep until I found this. This is a video of JK promising with 100% certainty she has seen my paperwork and that I’m telling the truth, then the video of her a year later for the first time actually seeing my paperwork and then calling me a snitch. Shout out to Captain Knapton on YouTube (where I found the clip of paperwork day)
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2023.06.09 10:59 Gellethar New Youtube Channel

Hello All
I am starting a new YouTube channel on DnD and wanted to share it with you guys. You are welcome to check it out through the links below. I am also interested in feedback, it can be about any aspect of the current video on these links. Video quality, information, cadence, topic.
And if you don't mind I also want to hear about what you guys want as far as DnD content?
Thank you, I hope you enjoy the short video.
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2023.06.09 10:59 tiny_ymir lgbtq+ community in Geneva, NY vs. transphobe on the city council

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GENEVA — A proclamation dedicated to Pride Month that Mayor Steve Valentino read at Wednesday’s City Council meeting wasn’t going to stop members of the LGBTQ+ community from condemning Ward 2 Councilor Bill Pealer Jr. for his social media posts they say paint a distorted and ultimately dangerous view of them.
Nearly 30 members of the LGBTQ+ community, along with their supporters, spoke out against Pealer’s since-removed Twitter posts over the course of two hours.
There was plenty of tension at the meeting, and debate ensued when Valentino announced some speakers would be allowed to address Council before it handled some business items and others would get to speak after. Consideration of a food truck ordinance was tabled for another meeting.
Valentino said Council business, as brief as it was, needed to be addressed.
However, Ward 3 Councilor Jan Regan, who is facing off against Valentino in the Democratic primary later this month, disagreed.
“I think that this is part of our business,” she said to cheers.
Once rolling, speaker after speaker hammered away at Pealer, who has not apologized for the posts he claims have been misinterpreted and “cherry-picked.”
However, Penny Hankins, who criticized Pealer’s remarks in a letter to the Finger Lakes Times, said the Ward 2 councilor was not fooling anyone.
As others did, she referenced his post where he derided the often-used LGBTQ+ theme “love is love,” which is a way of equating the love members of the LGBTQ+ community share with each other with those who are heterosexual.
“‘Love is Love’ is sick code for the advocacy of sexual deviance and depravity,” Pealer had posted.
This, Hankins said, is hate speech.
“Your bigotry has consequences,” she said to Pealer while calling for City Council to censure him.
H. May also called for a censure of Pealer and condemned Council members who have not spoken out against Pealer’s social media posts.
“So far, Council has remained silent,” she said.
May said that pride proclamations “are not a substitute for meaningful actions,” adding that anti-trans rhetoric is “part of a concerted effort to scare people back into the closet.”
Dylan Ivanchikova, a senior at Geneva and a member of a “big, old queer family,” said Pealer’s remarks have impacted him. He said the characterizations of gays as predators is an “old trick” by those who disagree with LGBTQ+ lifestyles. Ivanchikova said he’s “afraid of a future” where people like his parents are seen as criminal.
And, Maggie Warner said Pealer’s posts, including a story she said fact-checking organizations deemed “non-credible,” serves to endanger the lives of LGBTQ+ people of Geneva.
“God, do your research,” she said to Pealer.
She also called for Pealer to be censured.
Members of Family Counseling Service of the Finger Lakes’ LGBTQ+ Program also spoke, including counselor Emily White.
“It’s so crucial to counter these stereotypes (of LGBTQ+),” she said.
Among those stereotypes, she said, is that they “groom” potential sexual abuse victims. “There is zero evidence to back that up,” adding that most victims know their perpetrators and that a good chunk of them are family members.
Barney Goldstein condemned the “demonizing rhetoric” that he said has led to over 400 anti-trans bills being introduced across the nation. As a gay man, Goldstein said he felt “very much alone” growing up in Geneva.
“I couldn’t wait to leave here,” he said.
However, he returned in 2004 to find a city that was far more tolerant — although he found Pealer’s posts to be disturbing.
“I never expected to be targeted by an elected official,” he said. “I think this councilor should resign, and if not, I’ll do my damnedest” to see him defeated in the November election, Goldstein continued.
Added Scott Bowes, a Democrat running in the Ward 6 race against Kyle Brimm: “If you are silent and do not speak out against him, then you are complicit with him.”
Pealer did not respond to the many comments during the portion of the meeting devoted to updates from individual councilors.
Others thanked the speakers for showing up in such big numbers. Ward 4 Councilor Ken Camera said he would introduce a resolution to censure Pealer at the next meeting — prompting the crowd to erupt with applause.
Ward 5 Councilor Laura Salamendra once again lashed out at her Ward 2 colleague, as well as Valentino, another of her Council adversaries.
“Thank you to everyone who came out tonight to stand against the bigot Bill Pealer and to call out the mayor for his refusal to condemn hate speech, homophobia and transphobia by his running mate,” she said. “We’d prefer that to a proclamation.”
Valentino said his goal for Geneva is to “reduce or eliminate the division” and encourage “love and respect.” He said we all must “make sure you look at yourself and say, ‘What can I do to better myself.’”
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2023.06.09 10:59 HHsenpa_1 How do you guys deal with this

I have been studying islam and trying to get closer to my religion for some time now. I was born alevi (not alewi) and am trying to find the right path right now. Its rly hard to deal with all the hate, disrepect, death threats, jokes about what they did to my fellow alevis back in the days and all the discrimimation. As shias you guys have obviously experienced the same thing. (Just to clarify I personaly know more about suni islam than alevi islam or shia islam and my believes dont rly align with alevi islam but i also wouldnt consider myself suni or shia) I feel way more welcome in this community and over time have come to see that shias are usualy way more educated not only in islam but also just educationalwise. Still all this hate fills me with hatred and makes me want to do violent acts even tho ofc its not good and i wouldnt live them out. Coming from a family where (hypotheticaly) alot my cousins have become "freedomfighter" (i hope you guys know what i mean with this) i start glorifying the thimgs these groups do but i also realize that it is moraly wrong and also wrong in a religious sense. I would rly apriciate some advice om how to deal with all this and maybe some facts that convinced you guys that shia islam is the right way. Hope whoever reads this has a nice day and thank you in advance.
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2023.06.09 10:58 finesalesman Split screen videos in Portrait mode for Instagram/TikTok

Hello guys!
I use iMovie for editing, and I record myself playing instruments. Basically covering the songs.
I usually just play let’s say bass first, and then add video with guitar etc.
But I want to do split screen video to have both playing simultaneously. So bass on top, guitar on bottom.
Now, I record videos in Portrait mode with a phone for Instagram (phone is iPhone 14 Pro Max, I record in 4k60FPS, HDR on, back camera).
When I send videos to iMovie on Mac, those videos look perfect by itself. Problem is when I press “Overlay” then “SplitScreen” and for instance “Top”. Videos become super zoomed in, and there is no way for me to adjust them. I just want to center the videos differently, but iMovie doesn’t allow that, it just zooms in a certain area of both videos (I assume center) and that’s it).
I tried playing with aspect ratios, but I don’t understand them, Instagram uses 9:16 aspect ratio, so I tried putting both videos at 9:8 assuming that’s half of it, but apparently I’m dumb so it isn’t.
Is there any way to do this, while still keeping it in Portrait mode?
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2023.06.09 10:58 Ashley_42 Sudden worse period symptoms, should I see my GP or just take it easy and wait it out?

Hey redditors,
I (20f) have been having a really sucky period and it's driving me nuts. I have stage 1 endometriosis, but my periods are manageable with OTC painkillers. This time however, I feel worse than normal. Even with maximum painkillers I feel achey and crampy and overall just sick. The pain is everywhere (abdomen, back, legs, butt, even reaches my lower ribs) and it's mostly dull, with a sudden stab every so often.
The only thing different that I did, was stop birth control a week earlier due to exams and a festival where I'll be providing first aid (can't do those things while pumped up on painkillers). I've done this some times before, only out of necessity, either a week earlier or later which never caused issues.
I'm mostly just worried that I feel so sick. Besides the pain, I'm also nauseated and a little shaky, constipated and overall just really tired. I stopped the pill on Sunday (last dose Saturday) and started my period on Wednesday as it usually does. No major difference in bleeding other than that it was slightly thicker and had more clots than usual on the first day.
Should I go see my GP or just take it easy and wait it out?
Thanks for your advice!
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2023.06.09 10:58 palephx Zeus et Ganymede, pt 45 (dramatic spectacular edition)

[copied to Warhead, as a message to my own father, in a different facility]
Greetings, Y Chromosome:
Tonight has been a very good night (Pat Robertson d¡ed and Trump was ind¡cted for esp¡onage), and I suppose it's close enough to Father's Day. At least, all my online venues try to remind me. Y'kno, it's funny how moms want a piece of $5K jewelry, but dads really want $15.99 cargo shorts.
Good thing I learned marketing from Robert Cialdini. Excellent writer. Mediocre professor. You did recall that I had a Master's Class with Stanley Kunitz, right? Or, to hear mom's ghost parroting it thru Robbie, "BEFORE he was the Poet Laureate of the US."
Seriously, fuck all of you for that one.
I'm sure I can find FCI Buffer's mailing address, but I need your number, there. My current favorite person needs his, whenever I mail shit. I really adore him, but I have to be able to eat in 50 years.
Yes, I asked Rob directly about pics of your art. Unfortunately, you're old school, and they're actually physical, not digital. This was an insurance thing. I didn't want anything, but he's been such a shit with mom's estate, I need to remain useful. He really screwed up with the online auction, but it wasn't ALL his fault.
Since it appears that you'll live long enough to return to your house and restore it, just leave a digital record of the tchotchkes, as you replace them. I don't care about insurance value, but he can't really sell anything without my art history knowledge. I'd rather not have that difficulty with him, so I'm trying to streamline that nonsense.
One thing you seem neither to realize nor acknowledge is that, once he retires and lets his CFP license and bonding lapse, he can no longer be trusted with a single cent. Moving along...
"I am afraid you make the mistake of new presume if you know what you are saying everyone else does as well...not true.
I do not 'blithely' dismiss anything you write. I understand whatever I can and then try to focus on whatever I "most" do not understand without taking it out of context."
LOL, no. You haven't suddenly developed new abilities you've never demonstrated, before. Your kid took an SAT rather early, as part of a John's Hopkins program. You seriously need to shut up forever about that nonsense. This is somehow how Robert thought he was the "good one."
He STILL bitches about picking up dry cleaning at 17.
Literally nothing you have to say for the rest of your life will ever have any authority whatsoever, unless someone gives it to you. I can't imagine who else would, but me, and I do so having personally attended your allocution. I don't resent you, anymore.
I have decided to resume speaking with you because there's absolutely nothing you can do to harm me. I'm not a neophyte teacher. I'm not even sure WHAT I am, anymore, but there's no major mistake, here.
I have absorbed my parents' experience, in whatever form might still be useful. I've already done it with other generations, other ages, other cultures. It usually leads me to respect people more than I used to.
Once I finally stopped worrying where my next meal came from, I had the opportunity to see a lot of things I wasn't allowed to discuss. That's what freedom is, dad.
It's not where you are until October, or deciding that you're gay after thirty years of giving me shit. If Aunt Carrie is honestly that fucking shallow, then she needs to have a separate discussion from your conviction. I wouldn't want her thinking that gay men like kids, but she's never been as smart as you.
Maybe, you don't think I'm right. I don't need to be. I majorly don't care and don't want any attempt at explanation. Just so you're aware, this "first year teacher" knows it isn't delayed or undeveloped heterosexuality, which was Freudian claptrap before I was born.
I am, as a gay man, extremely sorry that your family and life situation never let you develop further, but that'd be giving Freud his undue credit. This is primarily because I presume, with EXTENSIVE insight, that you had plenty of same-age, consensual activity, and you were not out at a random poolhall until the wee hours, every time.
Yes, I know a lot more than you're aware of. It's not a cudgel. It's the only olive branch I can extend. You got sloppy and outsmarted yourself. You're nearly done dealing with it. What will you actually do with yourself, afterward?
All it required to understand the you I never met was taking my own experience and using it as a filter for when you were younger than I was.
So... If there's something you think I'm being too basic about, then I think you should enjoy my decision to deal with you. I really don't think I've missed anything, but I honestly don't know how horrible it must've been for you.
I can see each possibility that happened separately, to you, but it didn't make the shitty part disappear. There is definitely no parity between our experiences, even if I had rude and selfish parents. I know they didn't start out that way. I remember, even though I didn't have the language for a whole six months. How unambitious of me.
It won't help, now. But I'll still be here. There is no longer a reason to leave. — palephx
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2023.06.09 10:58 blueberrywasp Confused about the waistband (or lack of) in this 1895 skirt pattern

Confused about the waistband (or lack of) in this 1895 skirt pattern
Hi everyone! I’m not a beginner to sewing but I am to historical fashion and have gotten a little confused (again) about the pattern i’m working with. I’ve cut out my pieces for the skirt, using apportionment thanks to advice I got from here last time, but I am now confused that there is no waistband in the pattern. Seeing that the skirt specific instructions given in the start of the pattern make no mention of a waistband I’m wondering if it is supposed to be assumed knowledge, which I am lacking. I’m not sure how I would join the skirt to put it on, let alone keep it together nicely without one. Any advice at all is appreciated, thank you :)
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2023.06.09 10:58 JoMarch18 The Phantom of the Opera: why does it fascinates us?

The Phantom of the Opera: why does it fascinates us?
"In sleep he sang to me In dreams he came That voice which calls of me And speaks my name And do I dream again? For now I find The Phantom of the Opera is there Inside my mind" 🌹
Erik, a man born with a facial deformity that made him look like a skull, rejected by his mother, wanders around the world during his childhood, learning the use of the lasso and alchemy, and then takes refuge in the dungeons of the Opéra Garnier in Paris, after killing his violent master who forced him to perform as a freak in a circus. In that world of his own, without mirrors and with a mask on his face, he puts his incredible genius into the art of music. While recognizing similarities with the prince of Beauty and the Beast and Quasimodo of Notre Dame de Paris, also from a French pen, in my opinion Erik is in the middle: he is deformed but not bestial, he is angry but with an above average intelligence, an aesthetic sensitivity, a spectacular voice that reaches both high and low notes, a disarming sensuality. He has never known love and when he meets Christine he is deeply impressed: in him the most visceral and unhealthy emotions, linked to possession and desire, begin to struggle with pure and respectful feeling of the spiritual dimension. He doesn't know how to handle all these new sensations, so he explodes in a riot of anger and passion, delicacy and sweetness, to then discover, for the first time, the fragility he had tried so hard to hide. Even if Christine rightly chooses a healthy, safe, positive relationship with Raoul, she still becomes a tool of redemption for Erik, who understands, through the comparison with reality, that he is not alone in the world and that the first condition for loving someone is making peace with the past and loving yourself. What does the reader or viewer feel about Erik? Pity, as for Quasimodo? Or a strong attraction, like for the Beast? In my opinion, there is much more to Erik: the incarnation of our ghost, of our darkest side that we are ashamed to express and that we are invited to welcome, to love each other and to be able to love more. This is why I think Leroux's book has become one of the most viewed and loved musicals by the public, thanks also to the superb work of Webber; that's why I believe that Erik is still able to upset the innermost depths of the human soul: "the Phantom of the Opera is there, inside my mind" 🌹
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2023.06.09 10:58 nnomadic r/geomatics will be going dark from June 12-14 in protest against Reddit's API changes which kill 3rd party apps!

What's going on?
A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.
What's the plan?
On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.
What can you do?
  1. Complain. Message the mods of, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
  2. Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at ModCoord - but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their modmail.
  3. Boycott and spread the Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
  4. Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. This includes not harassing moderators of subreddits who have chosen not to take part: no one likes a missionary, a used-car salesman, or a flame warrior.
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2023.06.09 10:58 No_Obligation_4020 UPDATE: I just fell for the suit scam

Roughly 2 months ago I posted a thread about falling for the suit scam. If you want a tl;dr of what happened, this post by summarized close to my experience.
A longer version of what happened:
I arrived in Bangkok late Friday 07 April and stayed at a hostel on Khaosan Road. I experienced (what is now) the worst jet lag of my life and got maybe ~3 hours of sleep Friday and Saturday night each. On Sunday, I decided to walk to the Sky Train to visit True Digital Park. When I was passing Wat Saket, a Thai man seemingly came out of nowhere and started chatting me up. Usually when I travel, I’m on guard and swat this sorta thing away, but I decided to relax and go with it this time. He gave me the whole thing about the Thai holidays, gas prices, no taxes on big items (such as suits), and I believed it because Songkran was soon. He pulled out a Dentyne Ice cardboard gum wrapper (which I still have lol) wrote down 5 places I should visit, hailed a “60 thb” tuk tuk, and I was on my way. At the first stop was temple (I don’t remember which one) where another Thai man chatted me up in near perfect English, and we had a good conversation (or so I thought). The next place was the suit place, where I was fitted for 2 suit jackets, a handful of shirts and 2 pair of pants. I was instructed to come back for re-fitting later that evening, and went on with my tour. I went to the re-fitting and was informed that they suits would be ready in 3 weeks. It wasn’t until I did some googling later did I realize that I had fell for a scam.
So why so late on the update? A couple reasons:
1) My first 2 weeks in Bangkok were horrible. It was mostly due to the jet lag and bullshit at my job, but I just wanted to get away from the city and be in nature. I left Bangkok and spent roughly a month in Laos and the Thai Islands combined.
2) Honestly, I’m not very good at advocating for myself and being confrontational. I never heard back from the Suit factory, and was just going to leave it as is and move on from the experience. However some helpful coaxing from family members led me to go back to get them.
I contacted the Suit factor via WhatsApp today stating “This is my order number and I was told my suits would be ready in 3 weeks. It has been 2 months and I haven’t heard anything. I want to pickup my suits today.” To a little of my surprise, they responded within 10 minutes telling me they were ready and to stop by.
I arrived this afternoon and tried on the suits. The shirts and jackets fit fine, but the 2 pairs of pants were too tight. The tailor joked I had been eating out too much and drinking too much beer, which is true, but my current clothes still fit pretty well, and I went to Bumrungrad for a checkup and my weight was stable. On top of that I have been exercising fairly regularly on this 2 month trip. Nonetheless, the tailor seemed annoyed and we agreed for me to pickup on Tuesday.
As some (or most) of you predicted, the quality of the suits were pretty shit. But at least I’m getting something and not fully scammed so that’s a win in my eyes.
Tl;dr: Suits are real, quality is shit, pants were too tight, tailor blamed me for drinking too much beer.
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2023.06.09 10:58 niconicomayhaps Regarding SNSD couples, Please hear me out on this.

In light of the recent SNSD dating exposes, This one, The Taeyeon and Baekhyun one, has been the most interesting, and actually has two sides to this story. This is also the first time that SM has officially endorsed a intra-SM couple. I will only focus on Taeyeon's side of the relationship. She is after all, the older of the couple, i'd assume she makes all the decisions in this relationship.
I urge you to at least read on, and understand and digest. I understand this sub is majority Americans, Canada and Europe. And therefore your views may differ from the views of Sones living in Korea. You may have the urge to immediately downvote this, but for the sake of healthy discussion, i plead you hold your ratings.
The responses towards this has been varying, some elated for Taeyeon having unlocked herself from the shackles of her dating ban, while others felt furious and dejected from the sense of betrayal, supposedly from Taeyeon's actions, and everything in-between.
I will first generalize, and say that I think most here would feel elated for Taeyeon. I do understand. After all, Taeyeon is only human, and has wants, needs, and desires. Immediately it would be apparent to you that this dating ban is a serious degradation to one's living standards. After all, why should anyone be able to invade into her personal life, let alone control what she can do? These feelings are understandable, she is no longer young, she was lonely and supposedly in depression. Baekhyun came along, i do not know the details, but Taeyeon fell for his care and concern. All these should run up to an happy ending with a loving couple, shouldn't it?
Yes? But the Koreans saw this situation differently. Vastly differently. In fact so different, the conclusions they pull from this is that anger and dejectedness are the proper reactions to this situation.
Again, i plead that you hear me out.
You might immediately want to ask a grieving Korean, why is he so bitter? why does he not wish his idol he so liked, so cared for, so supported by, that he wishes her to lie in a depressed state, faking a smile everyday, as compared to a genuinely happy Taeyeon? This can only be said to be a shallow interpretation of this situation.
As generalized in this post, The Koreans are not angered at her dating, nor with her choice of date, nor are they in despair that they were not chosen in favour of Baekhyun. I honestly believe anyone with a working brain, has already ejected the thought of actually having a chance with Taeyeon. The real problem lies within the criticism and belittling of fans.
Answer me this, /SNSD, have you ever been into events supporting SNSD physically, literally queuing in the snow just to fill up a studio to show your idols you are there for them? Arranging complicated post-release album buying algorithms such as to keep the longevity of those albums on charts? Have you donated physical money to keep one of their multitudes of fansites afloat? Have you personally sent food bentos to filming sets, in order to gain the respect and get into the good books of directors and film crew, such that your idol may have a easier time on set?
Have you?
If that is not enough to show how crazy Sones are willing to express their dedication for SNSD, here is a little anecdote from me.
I have once attended an annual blood donation drive, organized by the local Sone gathering. This was inspired after SNSD's Love request show, and it has been extremely meaningful since. Mind you, the process itself was painful, the the feeling of being weak and tired for the rest of the week was a pain to bear in the modern stresses of my country. But all of that was meaningful; It was donated in the name of the one and only Kim Taeyeon. We even received a plaque that congratulates Kim Taeyeon of donating some 7 litres of blood for lifesaving.
It is hard to understand the feelings now held by the Koreans. Most have placed a large part of their lives into this, and for most of the masters of fansites, leaving SNSD is not an option. It is not farfetched to go beyond saying SNSD would not be here today without these Koreans. The dejectedness arises when this was leaked. It was prime evidence secret accounts exist. For all we know, SNSD have secret twitter accounts too. This would have been innocent, until Taeyeon started to upload cryptic images and hidden mushy nicknames for each other publicly. This would not have been a problem, if they kept it in their secret SNS, but surely Taeyeon would not be as silly as to post it publicly? Well, she did. Logically speculating why she would do something like comes up with 2 possibilities. One where she doesn't have, or wishes to be at the inconvenience of switching accounts everytime they wish to communicate. This is highly unlikely, as an class A idol, it would be highly unlike she would take such a risk as to keep her password always logged in, and kakao or Line would have better facilitated such needs. or, In the 2nd possibility, she enjoys the thrills of posting such messages, and having safely hinted time and time again of their relationship. Psychologist know all about this, and part of the adrenalin rush from death defying roller coaster rides. people are known to do this, well in roller coaster rides, who is to say Taeyeon isn't doing the same.
Regardless which situation lead her to do something like that, It is important to realize that nobody likes to be trapped between 2 lovers, and i can assure you its not a good feeling reading what is not meant for you, worse, interpreted as for you, but not. Some did not know this until the very end, which by then, was anger and sadness. Imagine sending something to Taeyeon, something you designed yourself, sweat and effort all put into having your idol appreciate it. She receives, and captions it with a ambiguous message. You accept its a response to your work, but finds out after some time that it isn't, instead for someone else, intentionally. You'd feel bitter too.
There were also posts regarding if TaeBaek was just a conspiracy to mislead people away from the Kris/yifan scandal. It would seem true, as Taeyeon is know to be a really smart leader. An open-roofed car, making out? Again, only 3 possibilities, That it is a conspiracy, where SM intentionally allowed the photographers to make a clear shot. or, Taeyeon isn't smart, and in the mist of hormones and lack of proper air conditioning, decided to open the roof. The last possibility i had difficulty grappling with; it puts doubt on everything Taeyeon's character and what she has claimed to be so far, that is that Taeyeon that is smart but has seem to have abandoned all willingness to hide their relationship and alongside the fate of SNSD.
Now ask yourself, is there anything SM is so afraid, such as to invent such madness to turn the eyes of silly netizens into forgetting Kris's scandals? Is Taeyeon stupid as to blatantly tell the world she is dating and risk the backlash?
Have you felt fighting a war where your generals have abandoned you?
In Asian traditions, one is to remind oneself continuously of their origins, no matter how humble. It is meant to keep one grounded and upright for life. 음수사원
It is hard to imagine that one would have sacrificed so much for an idol, that one day the idol would use them as a stepping stone. Maybe it is how life works, maybe people need to be stung so as they may wake up from their fantasies. But regardless, it has happened, consequences will follow.
Please, Think again before you type another mean comment about a person whom may not think them dating is smart thing to do now. Because they have reasons, and some are more thought-out than simple ideologies.
As for Taeyeon's apology, you might not understand, but I believe Taeyeon finally understands the risky game she plays has backfired.
Oh and because you people can't seem to understand, such that i need to reemphasize, the reason i am writing this, is NOT because i am lonely, douchey and jealous. I am NOT saying Taeyeon should have chosen me instead. Neither am i saying them dating is forbidden. Instead, its the way they're doing things that is, just plain strange.
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2023.06.09 10:57 lostlittleteapot How do I move on from this breakup?

After 4 yes together my partner broke up with me, saying he didn't feel the same about our relationship. A few months ago we moved abroad for his career, I found it difficult at first but found a job eventually, which helped. We had a fall out a month ago and I started therapy as an outcome. I've been doing much better since and felt our relationship has been improving. I had fully committed and love him entirely. But now I feel lost and cannot see a future. He's become my world and I don't know how to face things without him. Do other people move back to their home country after a break up? How do I cope and get through this? We have few close friends in the new country and I am alone.
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