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I’ve been going through one the hardest time of my life. My family, friends neglect me emotionally, literally no one to confide with. No one understands me, nearly every people that i’ve met try to bring me down. I treat everybody with compassion , why can’t i have a happy life, meet the kind of people that is similar to me. It’s been more than a year, I’m depressed, tired, hopeless, lonely have a lot of doubts and fears. I’m having many suicidal thoughts recently. Life sucks!

I’ve (M21) recently broke up with my gf (F22), which I suspect has BPD and I feel f*cking awful.
She was really insecure and needy, she needed a lot of love and validation, but I couldn’t give it to her. I was afraid of commitment felt like the relationship was suffocating me. I know that relationships with people with BPD are really hard, but I feel like we could have made it work if it wasn’t for my fear of commitment and my second thoughts about if I actually want to be with her or not…. She loved me like no one else did, I was the center of her world, while she wasn’t the center of mine.
I didn’t give her the love and affection that she needed. Although I was always supportive of her struggles, I cried with her when she cried and hugged her and told her that everything is going to be alright, wiped tears of her face, told her that I’m always here for her, reassured her that I’m not going to leave, encouraged her to go to therapy and promised to help with her mental struggles, but other than that I was a shirt partner… I failed to make her feel loved. I wasn’t nearly as invested into the relationship as she was… I didn’t prioritise heour relationship and sometimes came across like I don’t care about her… I was also overly critical; she did hard drugs at parties and I criticised her for it too many times when it was just none of my business.
Soon after we broke up, I realised that although she was really emotionally demanding, I was the shit/toxic one. I apologised many times and wanted to make things right; told her many times that I’m terribly sorry for every time I made her feel bad and unloved and that I love her and care for her deeply… but it was too late. I never wanted to hurt her and more than anything I want her to be happy… I care deeply for her, I really do.
But her happiness is out of my control now and I’m really worried about her because I know how unstable she can be… I could have helped her, but I failed, I was a shit boyfriend.
I’m terribly sorry V., I love you and I want you to be happy more than anything… I wish you find happiness with your new boyfriend, I hope he can be a better boyfriend than me and I hope he will make you happy and not cause you pain like I did. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to be loved, more than anyone else and just please stay safe, look after yourself and don’t do anything stupid… you are the most beautiful human being I have ever met, and I failed you… I’m sorry.
TL;DR: I realised I was the toxic one and I’m devastated. I should have been a better boyfriend… should have prioritised our relationship, but I didn’t.

So I (25F) just moved here like 3 years ago. This is a 7 floors building, there are approximately 20 apartments I believe and all of the neighbors are like really close to each other and know each other for decades and most of them are older than 40 fsr and had always lived here. I first move in with my former fiancé (27M), he is an extrovert and introduced himself to the other neighbors that same day. He is a physician assistant student and he immediately made some friends like a doctor from the 3rd floor and some nurse. When we first moved in I was going through a very bad depression episode. I was diagnosed with depression at 12, I used to handle it but at 21 I went to a traumatic experience (that actually lead me to move here from an apartment that I used to love) so when I was settling in I wasn't in the mood of meeting new neighbors or small talk so I never actually got to know them, but my ex fiancé did. I work from home so I dont usually hang around the building cause I almost never leave my apartment because of my social anxiety and my allergies to the weather of my country most of the year. My ex fiancé on the other hand was always coming and going so he met a lot of the neighbors when going to work or running errands.
So last year I was actually starting to feel kinda better and I began to leave my apartment more often to meet old friends etc. But my relationship with my fiancé was not going too well. We still loved and cared about each other but we weren't working as a couple, it got kinda platonic. We decided to end our relationship and to stop the wedding plans but we continued living together with no drama until he found a nice place to move. He decided that he would be the one who moves because the apartment was too far away from his work anyway and he didn't want me to stress out with another moving after all I went through. There was no rush from me, I wanted him to find his perfect place so he moved temporarily to the guest room and we were living peacefully almost as roommates while he kept looking for apartments. In my opinion we were even happier that way than as a couple. My mental health was improving. I started a new job, mostly from home but hybrid so I had some meetings and it involved some events I had to attend. I was going out the apartment more often and I started to run errands and go to the store almost as a normal person. I was doing my best effort. When I had to share the elevator with another neighbor they used to get really surprised by my presence. They all used to ask if I was visiting or if I was new in the building. I found rather odd the interrogations all the time but I just used to reply that I live in the 7th and that Ive been living here for 2 years now. They were at first usually shocked and then they were like oh yeah you're the physician's fiance. I never got the guts to correct them by saying I was his ex, mostly because he was still around and it just makes no sense so I would wait until he move out to do so.
But 6 months passed and my ex was no where near to move out. It was ok to me to stay as roommates and I didn't felt like it was a big deal that the neighbors believe that we were still a couple. He never corrected them either when they asked him stuff like when was gonna be the wedding. But at that time Ive just met someone at an event from work that I was really into (24M). He asked me out and we went to a few dates that were amazing. There was an awesome connection and we started dating.
We usually hang up at his place because my apartment is kinda far anyway and also I didn't knew how to tell him the situation with my ex/roommate. After 2 months dating I already knew I wanted a relationship with him, I was happier than ever I never had felt that way before, we were both so truly in love so I told him everything and he was totally fine with that and he understood that it was not uncommon for exs to live together for a while until one of them find somewhere to go. He didn't knew that almost 9 months had passed tho.
On the other hand when I told my ex about my new bf that was coming to visit he lost it. I didn't expect him to freak out that way because he used to tell me about his crushes and his dates in that time we were living only as roommates and it was fine I already saw him like a friend amd even gave him advices with girls but he got real mad when I mention the word bf and that he was visiting anytime soon. He said how can you this to me and that he thought I was just sleeping around but he didn't expected something like that.
I immediately realized that maybe he still had some feelings for me so I tried to be as kind as possible and he started to look more seriously for places to move. My bf only came to visit whenever my ex was working all night at the hospital so we don't disturbed him and I was really careful they never crossed knowing how my ex feeling about him. The situation was really awkward and my new bf one day told me that he had very weird encounters at the halls of the buildings with neighbors asking who was him and who was he visiting. At that time I'm pretty sure that most of the neighbors thought that I was having an affair. They never liked me anyway because I was quiet because of my mental issues and they might have take the wrong impression but I was just unable to small talk. They adored my ex fiance tho so they kinda hate me now. He found a place to live and he moved out right away.
4 months had passed from that, my bf and I are so happy together and he started to work from home too so he is spending a lot of time in my place because some issues with his roommate. We aren't talking about living together yet but he comes at least 5 days at week. My sister came one weekend to visit for the first time and she heard some neighbors chatting on the elevator about me without knowing who she was. They were saying that I was cheating my fiance with a some much uglier guy that I used to have over anytime my fiance had a shift at the hospital and that he one day found out and left me. It was really disturbing to know that but I didn't wanted to get involved and I didn't really care about their opinions of me. It was awful the looks I got from them but I didn't went out too often anyway. The president of the neighbors, the doctor from the 3rd that was friends with my ex, called me on Sunday to complain about my sister's car staying to long on the garage and they didn't recognize the car and it wasn't allowed to have visitor's cars on our garage. It was actually on my spot because I don't own a car and there was literally nothing wrong with that. So I avoid confrontation and told her ok and hang up but actually I was not going to make my sister move her car at night it was ridiculous and she was leaving early in the morning anyway. But I didn't had the courage to reply her what I actually thought because of my social anxiety. So when the doctor left in the morning the car was still there because my sister decided to stay until 10am to avoid traffic and I told her it was fine because she has every right to have her car on my spot and it doesn't bother anyone that her car is there but the neighbor just hates me and wants to give me a bad time for no reason. I didn't expect the rest of the neighbors to support her but they convocated a meeting of neighbors only to accuse me for what I did. It was everyone against me at the meeting. It was terrifying for me and my mental health, like a public amonestation at the lobby of the building where everyone got together to complain about me. I tried to defend myself without crying about that there's no rule against the visitor's car on the owner spot. But they said they didn't care, it was just disrespectful to tell the president on the phone that I was moving the car and then just don't move it. I can't stress enough that all of the neighbors are older than 40, at least the ones that were at that meeting. They started to complain that I was also rude, that I never talked to anyone not got the time to know them or to participate on the building's reunions and parties and that I had a guest over visiting too often, probably a bf, that doesn't pay rent and that they need to know his name and last name because I have to inform to the building if I'm having a new partner or roommate. Everything was surreal and I just left the meeting without saying a word. I couldn't stand it anymore. I locked in my apartment and I am trying to understand that they must hate me because of a misunderstood about me cheating my fiance but I actually felt so angry because even if that was true they had no right to do something like that. They are always rude to my new boyfriend and I have to keep living here for at least 2 years and I don't know how to do so with all this bad energy and I am scared and I haven't left my apartment today and I don't know what to do and I just can't stop crying and having no appetite and feeling like another depression episode might be coming back.

I (M31) have been texting with a girl for a bit over a month. We never talked in person but I kinda know her a little and have seen her before. I am getting a good vibe from her, we make jokes, and she has been sending me pics of her travels. We have asked each other out a couple of times but we never made it happen due to conflicting schedules so we have kept postponing.
I am conflicted about seeing her though. I have not been in the right headspace / have been in really low spirits to get to know / date someone for personal reasons, and I may even need to leave the city where we live for a while or potentially permanently in the near future. That’s also why I didn’t make efforts to meet her the past weeks.
She asked me to meet if I am free this weekend and I basically said yes but I honestly don’t feel like meeting her if I am not in the right headspace. I do want to get to know her but I feel like the timing is wrong for me. It would be weird to postpone again. I feel like I should tell her how I feel but if I did, I’d probably ‘lose points’ and I’d miss the chance of meeting her forever? But meeting her now feels wrong to me.
Am I overthinking this? I know I don’t have anything to lose and it’s just two people meeting but I’d like to meet her when it feels right but I don’t know when that will be.
Any advice?

So I (25F) just moved here like 3 years ago. This is a 7 floors building, there are approximately 20 apartments I believe and all of the neighbors are like really close to each other and know each other for decades and most of them are older than 40 fsr and had always lived here. I first move in with my former fiancé (27M), he is an extrovert and introduced himself to the other neighbors that same day. He is a physician assistant student and he immediately made some friends like a doctor from the 3rd floor and some nurse. When we first moved in I was going through a very bad depression episode. I was diagnosed with depression at 12, I used to handle it but at 21 I went to a traumatic experience (that actually lead me to move here from an apartment that I used to love) so when I was settling in I wasn't in the mood of meeting new neighbors or small talk so I never actually got to know them, but my ex fiancé did. I work from home so I dont usually hang around the building cause I almost never leave my apartment because of my social anxiety and my allergies to the weather of my country most of the year. My ex fiancé on the other hand was always coming and going so he met a lot of the neighbors when going to work or running errands.
So last year I was actually starting to feel kinda better and I began to leave my apartment more often to meet old friends etc. But my relationship with my fiancé was not going too well. We still loved and cared about each other but we weren't working as a couple, it got kinda platonic. We decided to end our relationship and to stop the wedding plans but we continued living together with no drama until he found a nice place to move. He decided that he would be the one who moves because the apartment was too far away from his work anyway and he didn't want me to stress out with another moving after all I went through. There was no rush from me, I wanted him to find his perfect place so he moved temporarily to the guest room and we were living peacefully almost as roommates while he kept looking for apartments. In my opinion we were even happier that way than as a couple. My mental health was improving. I started a new job, mostly from home but hybrid so I had some meetings and it involved some events I had to attend. I was going out the apartment more often and I started to run errands and go to the store almost as a normal person. I was doing my best effort. When I had to share the elevator with another neighbor they used to get really surprised by my presence. They all used to ask if I was visiting or if I was new in the building. I found rather odd the interrogations all the time but I just used to reply that I live in the 7th and that Ive been living here for 2 years now. They were at first usually shocked and then they were like oh yeah you're the physician's fiance. I never got the guts to correct them by saying I was his ex, mostly because he was still around and it just makes no sense so I would wait until he move out to do so.
But 6 months passed and my ex was no where near to move out. It was ok to me to stay as roommates and I didn't felt like it was a big deal that the neighbors believe that we were still a couple. He never corrected them either when they asked him stuff like when was gonna be the wedding. But at that time Ive just met someone at an event from work that I was really into (24M). He asked me out and we went to a few dates that were amazing. There was an awesome connection and we started dating.
We usually hang up at his place because my apartment is kinda far anyway and also I didn't knew how to tell him the situation with my ex/roommate. After 2 months dating I already knew I wanted a relationship with him, I was happier than ever I never had felt that way before, we were both so truly in love so I told him everything and he was totally fine with that and he understood that it was not uncommon for exs to live together for a while until one of them find somewhere to go. He didn't knew that almost 9 months had passed tho.
On the other hand when I told my ex about my new bf that was coming to visit he lost it. I didn't expect him to freak out that way because he used to tell me about his crushes and his dates in that time we were living only as roommates and it was fine I already saw him like a friend amd even gave him advices with girls but he got real mad when I mention the word bf and that he was visiting anytime soon. He said how can you this to me and that he thought I was just sleeping around but he didn't expected something like that.
I immediately realized that maybe he still had some feelings for me so I tried to be as kind as possible and he started to look more seriously for places to move. My bf only came to visit whenever my ex was working all night at the hospital so we don't disturbed him and I was really careful they never crossed knowing how my ex feeling about him. The situation was really awkward and my new bf one day told me that he had very weird encounters at the halls of the buildings with neighbors asking who was him and who was he visiting. At that time I'm pretty sure that most of the neighbors thought that I was having an affair. They never liked me anyway because I was quiet because of my mental issues and they might have take the wrong impression but I was just unable to small talk. They adored my ex fiance tho so they kinda hate me now. He found a place to live and he moved out right away.
4 months had passed from that, my bf and I are so happy together and he started to work from home too so he is spending a lot of time in my place because some issues with his roommate. We aren't talking about living together yet but he comes at least 5 days at week. My sister came one weekend to visit for the first time and she heard some neighbors chatting on the elevator about me without knowing who she was. They were saying that I was cheating my fiance with a some much uglier guy that I used to have over anytime my fiance had a shift at the hospital and that he one day found out and left me. It was really disturbing to know that but I didn't wanted to get involved and I didn't really care about their opinions of me. It was awful the looks I got from them but I didn't went out too often anyway. The president of the neighbors, the doctor from the 3rd that was friends with my ex, called me on Sunday to complain about my sister's car staying to long on the garage and they didn't recognize the car and it wasn't allowed to have visitor's cars on our garage. It was actually on my spot because I don't own a car and there was literally nothing wrong with that. So I avoid confrontation and told her ok and hang up but actually I was not going to make my sister move her car at night it was ridiculous and she was leaving early in the morning anyway. But I didn't had the courage to reply her what I actually thought because of my social anxiety. So when the doctor left in the morning the car was still there because my sister decided to stay until 10am to avoid traffic and I told her it was fine because she has every right to have her car on my spot and it doesn't bother anyone that her car is there but the neighbor just hates me and wants to give me a bad time for no reason. I didn't expect the rest of the neighbors to support her but they convocated a meeting of neighbors only to accuse me for what I did. It was everyone against me at the meeting. It was terrifying for me and my mental health, like a public amonestation at the lobby of the building where everyone got together to complain about me. I tried to defend myself without crying about that there's no rule against the visitor's car on the owner spot. But they said they didn't care, it was just disrespectful to tell the president on the phone that I was moving the car and then just don't move it. I can't stress enough that all of the neighbors are older than 40, at least the ones that were at that meeting. They started to complain that I was also rude, that I never talked to anyone not got the time to know them or to participate on the building's reunions and parties and that I had a guest over visiting too often, probably a bf, that doesn't pay rent and that they need to know his name and last name because I have to inform to the building if I'm having a new partner or roommate. Everything was surreal and I just left the meeting without saying a word. I couldn't stand it anymore. I locked in my apartment and I am trying to understand that they must hate me because of a misunderstood about me cheating my fiance but I actually felt so angry because even if that was true they had no right to do something like that. They are always rude to my new boyfriend and I have to keep living here for at least 2 years and I don't know how to do so with all this bad energy and I am scared and I haven't left my apartment today and I don't know what to do and I just can't stop crying and having no appetite and feeling like another depression episode might be coming back.

Me-
I need help finding a solution to a certain problem that happens almost every year in certain parts of India. From what i can gather, there seems to be a recurring issue with borewells that are left unsupervised and small children regularly fall into these borewells which can go as deep as 300ft. I need help finding ways to prevent this from happening in future as well as efficient and quick methods to rescue small children that fall into them.
ChatGPT -
The issue you mentioned regarding children falling into unsupervised borewells is indeed a serious concern. It has occurred in the past, and there have been several incidents in India where children have fallen into such borewells. Here are some suggestions to address this problem and prevent future incidents:
Preventive Measures:

1. Adequate Fencing: Erect a strong and secure fence around the borewell sites to prevent unauthorized access, especially by children. The fence should be difficult for children to climb or breach.
2. Secure Covers: Install sturdy and lockable covers on the borewells to prevent accidental falls. These covers should be childproof and not easily removable.
3. Signage and Awareness: Display clear and prominent signs near borewells, warning about the dangers and instructing people to keep children away. Conduct awareness campaigns in the local communities to educate people about the risks associated with unsupervised borewells.
4. Regular Inspections: Establish a system for regular inspections of borewell sites to ensure that covers and fences are in good condition and properly maintained.
5. Local Regulations: Encourage local authorities to develop and enforce regulations regarding the construction and maintenance of borewells, including safety measures.

Rescue Measures:

1. Emergency Helpline: Establish a dedicated emergency helpline number that people can call immediately in case of a borewell-related incident. This helpline should be accessible 24/7 and well-publicized in the local communities.
2. Rapid Response Teams: Form specialized rescue teams equipped with necessary tools and expertise to respond quickly to such incidents. These teams should be trained in rescue techniques specific to borewell incidents.
3. Communication and Coordination: Improve communication and coordination between relevant authorities, including local administration, police, fire services, and medical services, to ensure a swift and efficient response during rescue operations.
4. Equipment and Technology: Provide the rescue teams with appropriate equipment such as cameras, ropes, harnesses, and communication devices to aid in the rescue efforts. Explore advanced technologies like remote-controlled robots or drones to assess the situation and assist in the rescue process.
5. Expertise and Training: Conduct regular training sessions for the rescue teams to enhance their skills and knowledge in dealing with borewell incidents. Collaborate with experts in rescue operations to share best practices and learn from their experiences.

It's essential to involve the local community, authorities, and organizations in implementing these preventive and rescue measures effectively. Public awareness, education, and collaboration among stakeholders play a crucial role in mitigating this recurring problem and ensuring the safety of children in the vicinity of borewells.
Me-
Rescue measures are good but can you suggest a faster method since most children seem to die of suffocation long before any real progress can be made to get them out.
ChatGPT-
I understand the urgency and need for faster rescue methods in these situations. While every rescue operation is unique and challenging, here are a few additional suggestions to expedite the process:

1. Air Supply: Establish a method to provide a continuous supply of fresh air to the child trapped in the borewell. This can be achieved by lowering a tube or pipe with ventilation to the child, ensuring a constant flow of oxygen.
2. Use of Cameras: Employ advanced camera systems, such as waterproof and heat-resistant remote-controlled cameras, to assess the situation inside the borewell. This can help rescuers gather critical information about the child's condition, location, and any potential obstructions.
3. Vertical Drilling: Consider using specialized drilling equipment capable of creating a parallel shaft or tunnel adjacent to the borewell. This technique allows rescuers to reach the trapped child more quickly and safely.
4. Suction or Vacuum Devices: Explore the use of suction or vacuum devices that can remove loose soil or obstructions from the borewell, creating a clear passage for the child to be safely extracted.
5. Collaboration with Experts: Seek assistance from experts who have experience in specialized rescue operations, such as cave rescue or confined space rescue. Their expertise and knowledge can contribute to finding innovative and efficient solutions for the specific challenges posed by borewell incidents.
6. Preemptive Measures: Encourage the use of technology to prevent suffocation by monitoring the oxygen levels inside the borewell. Oxygen level sensors can be installed, which trigger an alarm if the levels drop below a certain threshold, alerting rescuers to take immediate action.

It is important to note that these methods may require significant resources, equipment, and expertise. Therefore, it is crucial to establish a collaborative network involving local authorities, rescue teams, and experts to ensure the availability and accessibility of such measures during critical rescue operations.
Remember, the primary focus should be on prevention by implementing stringent safety measures and continuously raising awareness about the dangers of unsupervised borewells.

AI art and writing, which I fully believe as very, great tools.
AI art helps fill in the blanks and saves some time for artists like backgrounds and stuff. And writing, writer's block gets practically eliminated.
These are very great inventions and I for one cannot wait to develop my artistic sense good enough to allow me to utilize these things as well.
Although, going back to a previous post I've made, translations are still a far cry. Well, a far cry last I've checked. Hopefully it got to be a bit better. I for one am still for human translators but knowing the integrity issue for many official translators I understand if that one would come to replace them. I do wonder how the scanlation community would handle that but eh, I'll just see if HobbyDrama has anything for that in the near future.
So back to my main topic, AI Art and Writing. Very big pushback from the art community and the writing community, which I take is very liberal and filled to the brim with the woke. Them "LGBT romance is always a new hope while straight romance is a toxic mess with relationships beyond salvation" people.
And my question was that is they against these new tech because of the fact that they're gonna be out of a job or livelihood? Like I get the threat but if these writer's striking can have their jobs be done by an AI that's not even, I'd like to say useable but I am certain some peeps are making their scripts with AI and a touch of human touch as well, but we'll it's not really being used by the bigwigs...yet. And the fact that that option is available is a threat to them and they just don't seem all that talented then. That's me two cents for these writers. I've experienced better stories on the comment sections of writing prompts than what these folks striking were putting out.
But I also understand that having one's worked be treated like just cheap labor is wack. Pulp writers were paid lowly wages. If anything, it's the Japanese animators who needs to get workers rights not these Starbucks drinking car toting living in California peeps. If they at least had the work ethic and integrity of the Japanese.
So next is Art. Elitism I say. One can argue that it's stealing art but all art is stealing. Techniques, processes, ideas. Tarantino once said, "Great artists steal" and that's something I agree with. References for the sake of reference sucks but if it is done with intent to move the plot forward, yes.
Although I'm on the fence of AI art should join art contests and such but that is beyond me.
As a consumer, I enjoy a good story, some good art and maybe a bit of variety. Something that I really hope this tech would bring out to people.
So there's my opinion on the matter. In essence this is what I am posting about?
IS AI ART AND AI WRITING HATED UPON BY GHE GREATER ARTIST AND WRITING COMMUNITY BECAUSE THEY CAN REPLICATE WHAT THEY CAN DO AND POSSIBLY NOT HAVE THEIR LITTLE WOKE STUFF GET IN IT? Basically elitism?

Chunky guy looking for a lady to swap head or more. No preference on body type/ethnicity/race. Message me to swap pics and see what's up. Stay near Kingwood but willing to travel a bit or host.

Posting here because its fucking impossible to make a post on the Australia subreddit without it being removed for no reason automatically.
This isn't news, but for any highschool graduate who needs to hear it; do NOT committ to university study unless you are absolutely certain that you have a passion for it. I have nearly 20k in debt for an unfinished degree, and the 7.1 indexation just made my soul die. Paying it off will be like shovelling money into a furnace - absolutely pointless, and money is what we all need. They're never going to wipe student debt, no matter how much the greens harp on about it.
Yes, HECS is great; we can study up-front and pay later, but DEBT IS A DEBT. Unless the field you want to enter actually requires uni education, don't do it. Explore trades, do copious volunteer work, save some money from your after school job to travel and THEN make a decision. Look into the Self Employment Assistance program which centrelink offers (one of the few things they actually do very, very well) if you have a business idea or like creating things. Entrepreneurship is a skill you need these days.
Your late teens and 20s are FOR self discovery, as wanky as that term sounds. It took me 9 years to figure out what I'm doing, and I'm only 27, and finally forging a path with certainty. Some reach that point way later. You're not destined to do one thing for the rest of your life (most likely.)
Yes your 20s are for exploring and having fun, but in this area, BE SMART. Explore your options and do NOT blissfully be convinced that uni is the only way to pave your path - It is NOT.

I (m26) recently went NC with my whole close family as I realised I have no bond, emotions or connection to them as a result of absentee parenting throughout my life.
My parents divorced when I was 1, so I've only ever known seperate families. I lived with my mom 90% of the time and saw my dad every other weekend.
My mom was a successful property lawyer who, when I was 10ish, moved into a mansion (5 bedrooms, all ensuite, 3 living rooms, think wisteria lane in the UK) with my step-dad and had to pay the mortgage of this as a result. This meant she basically worked her entire life to pay upkeep. My routine consisted of waking up, going to school (mom would be gone by the time I wake up), coming back from school, making myself food, playing pc in my own living room, and going to bed. I think I would speak to the people living in my own house maybe once a week, and even then it would be a passing hello. We would never eat together as we would eat in our own living rooms, and never did anything together on weekends either.
My dad on the other hand was a successful insurance salesman with his own business making 6 figures, but never seemed to spend any of that on me and my sibling and I, as I only remember eating tesco value food and receiving the worst dodgy no-thought gifts as a kid (think wrong size rollerskates from a car boot sale, a freebie 'highlights of bbc comedy' DVD, or a single off-brand lego set that I played with for years because that was the only thing I got). He would only spend time doing what he and my sibling wanted (outdoorsy, nature, exploration type things) and effectively dragged me along as a requirement not as someone else to join in. I never had fun because he never took the time to know me and understand what I might have wanted (toys, indoor bonding time type stuff) but I put on a face so that he thought I was okay.
My sibling (now 30 or 31) has suffered in many ways with mental health, bullying in school, and the need to academically excel. This all culminated in them taking 95% of the limited attention of both parents, so I've always just felt like spare parts to them. It's not their fault, but it just contributed to me being the discarded child. It also helped their bond with both parents, so now they call them both multiple times a week (sibling lives abroad) which has often brought up as spat in my face by my parents.
I will assume that you are the same as me, where you have one or two CRITICAL moments in your childhood that truly define your relationship with your parents. For me, mine all centre around my dad. He was diagnosed with parkinsons around 10 years ago, but he never told me - he did however tell my sibling and also his ex-wife (my mom). So nearly a year after they found out, they were discussing it idly in conversation and became the ones to reveal that my dad had a life-destroying illness. I have never been so stunned in my life, I remember the colour draining from my face and being unable to speak as I saw the faces on my mom & sister as they realised they were the ones that have uncovered this.
He did similar things by forgetting me at other crucial moments. I've only ever had one grand parent (his mom) as the rest died before I could remember, and she died a few years ago. He forgot to tell me that she died. He called me the day before the funeral and said 'what time will you get to the funeral' to which I remember answering 'who's funeral?'. It was 2 minutes before I walked into my office. He didn't forget to tell my sibling.
He also got married to my step-mom at some point and never told me, so just one day he was remarried and that's it. He didn't forget to tell my sibling.
A few years ago my mom told me she had a cancer scare and wasn't in the clear yet. My honest thoughts to this were that I didn't care about it. No one wants a stranger to get cancer, and that's exactly how I felt - I didn't want this stranger to get cancer, but I don't think I would care if they did?
I have been acting like I love and appreciate them since as far as I can remember as a performance for them, however after I came back from uni I struggled more and more to perform to keep them happy. One of the things that tipped the scales for me was the inability to watch any (and I mean any) movie containing a bog-standard family without crying and breaking down, because I would just wish that I had something similar. In my mind I literally begged for anything, I begged for a family that actually cared for me and understood a thing about me.
Conversely, since I came back from uni they have both been very communicative and tried to be a part of my life by asking about current circumstances (work, boyfriend, friends etc) a lot. It's clear they want to have a good relationship with their son from now but they represent the symbols of neglect and abandonment in my mind.
I recently tried to reconcile with them by explaining to them my feelings about my childhood, and quite importantly said that I felt they 'owed me' for giving me no love, no attention, no care, no parenting as a child. I had discussed this with a therapist and we concluded this was a reasonable way to wipe the slate clean, to get my parents to acknowledge and reimburse their failures, so that we could potentially find a way to start again. I'm really determined to buy a house but I can't do so without their help, so I asked for any contribution towards a deposit for that from both of them. Both of them reacted poorly, said that they didn't do anything wrong and are outraged that I would ask them for something like that.
After this happened I realised they don't care about how they treated me, and they want to try and have a relationship with me without acknowledging the past. I couldn't accept this as a conclusion so I told them how I felt and have now cut them both off and expect to never speak to them again.
Several people have guilted me for doing this, saying my parents don't deserve to be abandoned by their own child, but it doesn't really phase me currently.
AITA for cutting them off? Do they deserve another chance to start a bond with their son after 26 years of ignoring him?

Started a game, landed. Was killed at about 1 min by "Buggar." Instantly killed, no shots, and my 3 teammates were all dead at the same time. Ok, probably just lagged out and died to invisible dynamite or something. Spawned in, flew to the other side of the map. Team was nowhere near me. 20 seconds and we all die to Buggar again, along with numerous other players on the kill feed. What's the point of doing this? All it makes me want to do is stop playing.

I’ve been on T gel for nearly a month now. I’m on Testavan 2%, 2 pumps daily. I’ve been feeling totally fine up until a few days ago, I’ve been starting to feel nauseous and fatigued. Not sure if it’s the T or something else going on with me, has/does anyone else experience nausea on T?

I met a girl online. We started to chat, I don't know why I started to like her a lot. I always felt that we would connect and we need to talk more. She didn't talk much initially, but eventually we became very good friends and she started sharing nearly everything about her life with me.
Meanwhile my feeling grew for her to the extent of point-of-no-return. It's alwys so soothing and joyful experience to have a conversation with her. I've been in relationship before with other women but this feels so different and peaceful.
I sense there's genuine concern and care for me in her voice but she can be weird at times. For example she can totally ignore and shut herself in her room for a long time, and not talk to anybody. Not even to her two decade long best friend. Not getting any reply from her for a long time makes me feel really sad and anxious. Also she's not really willing to take it to the next level. She's a really good person, no doubt about that, her ethics and moral sense are always on point but sometimes she says she feels bad about all these, she tells me it feels like she's using me to get through life and not really contributing anything to my life.
Now given how good friends we've become it's difficult to cut all ties. Just the thought of it makes both of us incredibly sad, but the truth is it feels very stagnant. I wonder what should I do here, be strong and move away from all these so that this doesn't become the reason I get incredibly hurt from in future. Or stay here and let things unfold naturally?

I'm gonna try and be super vague in case she has a reddit account,but my mom has this habit of making every conversation about her, and even if you started the conversation she'll make it about her-
Birthday? Even if yours is 2 days away and hers is next year she'll need to talk about hers (just an example) and she'll need to talk about hers 24/7
A compliment you got? She got better compliments then you gotta hear the most dramatized story ever
Today I decided to talk to my cousin about my issues with a very basic task that i have issues with because my hands hurt so much often and my arms etc that I sometimes can't do basic task, and I go to talk to her about it and my mom just interrupts me every fucking second too the point I just walk away nearly in tears and just message my cousin while my mom's still talking to her, it's like we were having a conversation about something to help me because I possibly have some physical disability that has affected basic tasks and you make it about yourself
I get you want too feel better about yourself but why the hell does it need to be during my time?

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So I (25F) just moved here like 3 years ago. This is a 7 floors building, there are approximately 20 apartments I believe and all of the neighbors are like really close to each other and know each other for decades and most of them are older than 40 fsr and had always lived here. I first move in with my former fiancé (27M), we had been together for 4 years, he is an extrovert and introduced himself to the other neighbors that same day. He is a physician assistant student and he immediately made some friends like a doctor from the 3rd floor and some nurse. When we first moved in I was going through a very bad depression episode. I was diagnosed with depression at 12, I used to handle it but at 21 I went to a traumatic experience (that actually lead me to move here from an apartment that I used to love) so when I was settling in I wasn't in the mood of meeting new neighbors or small talk so I never actually got to know them, but my ex fiancé did. I work from home so I dont usually hang around the building cause I almost never leave my apartment because of my social anxiety and my allergies to the weather of my country most of the year. My ex fiancé on the other hand was always coming and going so he met a lot of the neighbors when going to work or running errands.
So last year I was actually starting to feel kinda better and I began to leave my apartment more often to meet old friends etc. But my relationship with my fiancé was not going too well. We still loved and cared about each other but we weren't working as a couple, it got kinda platonic. We decided to end our relationship and to stop the wedding plans but we continued living together with no drama until he found a nice place to move. He decided that he would be the one who moves because the apartment was too far away from his work anyway and he didn't want me to stress out with another moving after all I went through. There was no rush from me, I wanted him to find his perfect place so he moved temporarily to the guest room and we were living peacefully almost as roommates while he kept looking for apartments. In my opinion we were even happier that way than as a couple. My mental health was improving. I started a new job, mostly from home but hybrid so I had some meetings and it involved some events I had to attend. I was going out the apartment more often and I started to run errands and go to the store almost as a normal person. I was doing my best effort. When I had to share the elevator with another neighbor they used to get really surprised by my presence. They all used to ask if I was visiting or if I was new in the building. I found rather odd the interrogations all the time but I just used to reply that I live in the 7th and that Ive been living here for 2 years now. They were at first usually shocked and then they were like oh yeah you're the physician's fiance. I never got the guts to correct them by saying I was his ex, mostly because he was still around and it just makes no sense so I would wait until he move out to do so.
But 6 months passed and my ex was no where near to move out. It was ok to me to stay as roommates and I didn't felt like it was a big deal that the neighbors believe that we were still a couple. He never corrected them either when they asked him stuff like when was gonna be the wedding. But at that time Ive just met someone at an event from work that I was really into (24M). He asked me out and we went to a few dates that were amazing. There was an awesome connection and we started dating.
We usually hang up at his place because my apartment is kinda far anyway and also I didn't knew how to tell him the situation with my ex/roommate. After 2 months dating I already knew I wanted a relationship with him, I was happier than ever I never had felt that way before, we were both so truly in love so I told him everything and he was totally fine with that and he understood that it was not uncommon for exs to live together for a while until one of them find somewhere to go. He didn't knew that almost 9 months had passed tho.
On the other hand when I told my ex about my new bf that was coming to visit he lost it. I didn't expect him to freak out that way because he used to tell me about his crushes and his dates in that time we were living only as roommates and it was fine I already saw him like a friend amd even gave him advices with girls but he got real mad when I mention the word bf and that he was visiting anytime soon. He said how can you this to me and that he thought I was just sleeping around but he didn't expected something like that.
I immediately realized that maybe he still had some feelings for me so I tried to be as kind as possible and he started to look more seriously for places to move. My bf only came to visit whenever my ex was working all night at the hospital so we don't disturbed him and I was really careful they never crossed knowing how my ex feeling about him. The situation was really awkward and my new bf one day told me that he had very weird encounters at the halls of the buildings with neighbors asking who was him and who was he visiting. At that time I'm pretty sure that most of the neighbors thought that I was having an affair. They never liked me anyway because I was quiet because of my mental issues and they might have take the wrong impression but I was just unable to small talk. They adored my ex fiance tho so they kinda hate me now. He found a place to live and he moved out right away.
4 months had passed from that, my bf and I are so happy together and he started to work from home too so he is spending a lot of time in my place because some issues with his roommate. We aren't talking about living together yet but he comes at least 5 days at week. My sister came one weekend to visit for the first time and she heard some neighbors chatting on the elevator about me without knowing who she was. They were saying that I was cheating my fiance with a some much uglier guy that I used to have over anytime my fiance had a shift at the hospital and that he one day found out and left me. It was really disturbing to know that but I didn't wanted to get involved and I didn't really care about their opinions of me. It was awful the looks I got from them but I didn't went out too often anyway. The president of the neighbors, the doctor from the 3rd that was friends with my ex, called me on Sunday to complain about my sister's car staying to long on the garage and they didn't recognize the car and it wasn't allowed to have visitor's cars on our garage. It was actually on my spot because I don't own a car and there was literally nothing wrong with that. So I avoid confrontation and told her ok and hang up but actually I was not going to make my sister move her car at night it was ridiculous and she was leaving early in the morning anyway. But I didn't had the courage to reply her what I actually thought because of my social anxiety. So when the doctor left in the morning the car was still there because my sister decided to stay until 10am to avoid traffic and I told her it was fine because she has every right to have her car on my spot and it doesn't bother anyone that her car is there but the neighbor just hates me and wants to give me a bad time for no reason. I didn't expect the rest of the neighbors to support her but they convocated a meeting of neighbors only to accuse me for what I did. It was everyone against me at the meeting. It was terrifying for me and my mental health, like a public amonestation at the lobby of the building where everyone got together to complain about me. I tried to defend myself without crying about that there's no rule against the visitor's car on the owner spot. But they said they didn't care, it was just disrespectful to tell the president on the phone that I was moving the car and then just don't move it. I can't stress enough that all of the neighbors are older than 40, at least the ones that were at that meeting. They started to complain that I was also rude, that I never talked to anyone not got the time to know them or to participate on the building's reunions and parties and that I had a guest over visiting too often, probably a bf, that doesn't pay rent and that they need to know his name and last name because I have to inform to the building if I'm having a new partner or roommate. Everything was surreal and I just left the meeting without saying a word. I couldn't stand it anymore. I locked in my apartment and I am trying to understand that they must hate me because of a misunderstood about me cheating my fiance but I actually felt so angry because even if that was true they had no right to do something like that. They are always rude to my new boyfriend and I have to keep living here for at least 2 years and I don't know how to do so with all this bad energy and I am scared and I haven't left my apartment today and I don't know what to do and I just can't stop crying and having no appetite and feeling like another depression episode might be coming back.

I'm currently earning nearly 6 digits but I got an offer from a US company that doubled my current.
Right now my job is super flexible to the point that I can clock in and get back to sleep again for at least 2 hours lol
Even on office days we are allowed to go to office whatever time we want, we can clock in at home the go on a break to commute then clock in again in the office which is so good because we can avoid rush hours.
The job is pretty much the same, I'm more concerned on the schedule.
US offer is fully remote but already has a 12 hour shift on Sunday and Mondays which is a super let down for me
Would you accept this offer?

Hi Ladies, need your advise and checking if there are similar cases. I had a preterm birth with my first pregnancy, delivered through csec at 32 weeks and the baby boy is now almost 3.:) this is my second pregnancy and due to my previous history my cervix length was closely monitored in my 13 week scan and so on, currently I am at 2.7 cm and doctor had wanted to to a cerclage. Upon doing a physical examination, she said that I have a cervix erosion with discharge and started me on antibiotics, weekly progesterone injections, daily progesterone tablets, probiotic capsules. She checked my cervix 2 weeks later and still is saying that she wouldn't recommend cerclage as 1) I have an erosion 2) I have a polyp near the uterus 3) have full placenta previa. She is saying the risks are more than the benefits and stitch might trigger bleeding and preterm labour. She's told me to continue with the above medicines and see her when I am 19 weeks. This is very disappointing since I thought getting a cerclage will reduce all.kinds of risks and I am on super strict bed rest - I am lying down on the bed the entire day, I am working from home so have my laptop with me and lying down and working but I am feeling discouraged of not getting a preventive cerclage. I wanted to know if there are any other ladies with similar situation and will bed rest alone with progesterone injections be sufficient ?